And then blame you.

From the top 15, your spouse, down to your kids

It's just a matter of time

:( :( :(

I'm afraid of that. They are being so cool right now. I think it's just the being in shock effect. Once the shock is over and that actually realize what's happening and what this means.....it won't be so peaceful and loving.

I've seen this happen in my own life. TBMs may be patient at first when they think that they might have the ability to change your mind about the church. But once they realize that you're not coming back, watch out...

A great deal of it is fear of the solidarity of their own posture. They are afraid that you will contaminate their "TESTIMONY".

My TBM FIL asked me not to discuss religion at all in his presence and told me that his testimony was the most important thing in his life and he won't risk it by listening to anything or anyone but the brethren.

Mormons are lovey-dovey in hopes an exmos will return to the fold. When that never happens, they turn to shunning or harassment.

Mormonism turns human relations, which are already fraught with pitfalls, into pure fuckery. A lifetime of cult indoctrination turned my uneducated aloof sister into a raging shrill harridan.


There ain't nothin more powerful than the odor of mendacity. You can smell it. It smells like death.
Tennessee Williams

The church of mendacity kills.

Ha! They turned on you the moment they found out you went AWOL-er, apostate.

Their perma-fake smile faked you out...

It took 5 years as an exmo, but they've all turned on me

A major reason is I like a few beers now and then,

My oldest son accused me of not keeping the Sabbath day holy..non of his business,

My other son called me a creep for jokingly asking if a girl that a few of us were talking about, was hot,

All my tbm friends have shunned me..

I could go on and on.

My ex is a narcissisc, turbo, nazi tbm that has my kids wrapped around her unempathetic finger.

There's one in my family that's trying to jump on the shun bandwagon. As soon as he can figure out how to make it look like none of it is his fault, I doubt he'll be heard from again.



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Just waiting for the backlash now told my home teachers I was an atheist. Next month should be interesting.

When I told the last bishop whose name I knew I was an atheist, he called me to be the Cub Scout Pack Master. I was an atheist with a key to the chapel. I hadn't been to church in 30 years at that time.

every time the leaders talk about fellowshipping those of us who have "fallen away." They start being sweet and then if you don't fall in line quickly, they shun you.

I've had it much easier than most except my daughter. Right now, we are doing okay.

My ex's sister is giving her exmormon son hell for not being mormon. I called her on it recently and then cut her off. The die-hards are NUTS.

"Shunning is ghawd's way of having relatives and former friends show you how much He cares."
--Pathos Lagrimas, Pinche Pendejo at large

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elderolddog Wrote:
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> "Shunning is ghawd's way of having relatives and
> former friends show you how much He cares."
> --Pathos Lagrimas, Pinche Pendejo at large


Pathos Lagrimas was a pincho pendejo Baboso..... all around the town and back.... I shun him whenever I get the chance.

They will turn thier back on you like any cult . Then stalk you to try to reactivate you.

Howdy 6-Iron, I'm very sorry that your sons said what they did. Admittedly, I don't know you, but I read your posts. From what you've written, we'd probably be friends. You'd root for the Leafs, me for the Kings--with a couple of beers, bro-hugs, and guy-insults thrown in.

I find it ironic that Mormons put such an emphasis on the Sabbath when Jesus routinely broke it to illustrate that legalisms aren't aren't part of the good news. You could probably argue with your son about rules and religion, but I doubt that you'd win anything.

Perhaps, depending on his age, you might want to approach him head on with the notion that you love him and respect him and his right to practice his Mormon religion, and that he needs to reciprocate to respect you for who you are as his Dad and an adult who does not believe in Mormonism.

As to your youngest son, any bets about what he and his peers talk about? I guarantee it isn't about supporting Boyd Packard's no masturbation rule! Let your youngest son know that you were once his age and you remember being shy around your parents when sex came up. Let him know that you love him and that you do not judge him for not being perfect, he needs to not judge you.

Well, enough serious talk! Best wishes and a hearty fuck the Morg, eh? Vent here if it helps. Gordie's Boner.

You will love your children no matter what and hopefully they will do the same. But shame on them for not respecting that you are an adult who can do whatever they please on the sabbath. You should ask them if they expect/enjoy respect and then ask them to extend you the same curtesy. Being treated like an adult with freewill like the lds religion teaches deep down somewhere hidden is important. Also understand your children are absorbed by the religion. They are living and breathing it day in and out and you are a threat according to everything they are taught. Don't take these comments personally. They actually have nothing to do with you and everything to do with the cult.

Maybe one day one of your children will leave as well and reflect on their previous selves and comments. Maybe one day.... Crossing my fingers over here for you & your children.

They all turned on me before I resigned my church membership, so my path was relatively easy after I resigned.

Going forward, any dealings I might have with the church are pretty clear and set in stone to me. Right now, the mormon church is a fraudulant cult at best. If they want to change my opinion, I'll give them a list of names of several church leaders and members and what each one of them has done to me. Regarding the regular members on the list, I require either verbal apologies from every one of them, or that they be excommunicated if not. I require that the church leaders put their apologies in writing to me and on church letterhead. In addition, where those church leaders were acting according to church rules, policies, or training from the church, they've got to reverse the rule or add a new one in the church's world-wide policy handbook. If they meet every one of my conditions, they can graduate in my mind from 'dispicable cult', to 'good people doing their best to make the world a better place'.

So what about the whole 'only true church' thing? In my mind, I'll never believe that again, no matter what they do. Unless I have my own first vision and god tells me face-to-face, in-person to join the mormon church, I'll never go back. Since the church and everyone involved with my decision to resign will never all get together and apologize, put it in writing on church letterhead where the church leaders were involved, and meet my demands that they change church policy, that leads us back to where we started here. The church is and always was a fraudulant cult. That'll never change. And I am not going back. In addition, they've made an enemy of me. They've spent half of my lifetime and two years of that fulltime, training me on what they're really about and what their weaknesses are, only to create a trained enemy because of their own narcissism. They never were very smart anyway. They've made their choice and I've made mine. If god does exist, he's probably proud to see that every once in a while, someone actually stands up to those arrogant assholes.



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>>Unless I have my own first vision and god tells me face-to-face, in-person to join the Mormon church, I'll never go back.

I always say, if God wants me, s/he knows where to find me. Until then, I'm going to assume that I'm on my own and expected to use my own best judgment about things.

Indoctrination in a cult tends to do this to people.....the cult is first and foremost and RIGHT, and you, the apostate, are at the bottom of the shitpile, something that must be totally avoided.

You just chipped it in, 6 iron. They'll only indulge you while hope springs infernal in their tiny brains. When they despair of "saving" you, they knife you in the back. Hi Mom and Dad.



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"Christians" will shun you, too.

Once you let them that your soul is not up for grabs, and that you won't be attending (with them) The Church of the Redeemed of The High and The Holy that meets in the abandoned grange hall off the old highway, they will shun you, too.