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Date: September 25, 2016 03:45PM
It was one of those Sundays whose every minor, mundane moment reminded me that I am so glad I am not a mormon.
Sunday mornings are a joyful confusion of massive piles of Sunday papers, four generations of pajama clad people, and several versions of breakfast, with attendant doggies to tidy up whatever is dropped. We increased our number this morning with the addition of oldest son’s girlfriend, who had spent the night. Mormon moment #1. They guy is 37. His girlfriend is always welcome in our home, indeed, we have actually known her since she was a child and could not be more delighted with this relationship. I can’t imagine having to have something to be upset about because she shares a bed with my son in my house.
I was ready early and the weather was delightful so I decided to walk to church and let the rest of them catch up with me when they were ready. While walking I wondered when youngest son would start his rotation as a high school teacher in the religious education program. He has an undergraduate degree in education, he teaches young people how to create and produce television programs in his community outreach job at a local cable access station. And he is gay. Would the mormons ask him to teach? He is celibate, but that is more the absence of a relationship at present than any desire to have no love because of the sexual orientation he was born with.
Oldest son’s kids, riding with youngest son, arrived in time for the service to start. They spend every weekend, from Friday after school to Monday drop-off-at-school with their dad, who, until he gets a mortgage together, is living with us. On weekdays they are with their mom and her wife. The fact that their dad wanted them to attend UU services with him was discussed with their mom and step mom. Neither of these ladies had an issue with it. Can you imagine if first parish told the kids they could not participate in milestone events because during the week they live with a mom and a step-mom?
Music for today was also not mormon. The prelude was “Peace Train,” on piano by our master musician music director. There was a story for children. After the story, they filed out to their classes while the congregation sang, “This little light of mine,” clapping on beats 2 and 4.
The choir sang Robert Frost’s “Something Like a Star,” form the Frostiana series of songs. I have sung that in many different choirs since high school. I have never liked it. As a result I try my best to pretend it is my all time favorite thing to sing. Since everyone knew it well our choir was able to really attend to one another and keep our voices together articulating the rather cumbersome lyrics. We did a good job.
Rev. Ellen’s sermon was about congregations and what it means to be together with her in ministry. This fall is her fourteenth anniversary as our minister. She pointed out that 7 years is the average for a minister to be with a congregation. The church is about the community, not about the minister. However, a minister of long standing comes to know the congregation so well that she can be with them differently. She grieves with us differently and celebrates in the manner of someone who has watched the teenagers grow up.
Over our afternoon meal we all discussed, “Does this mean she is thinking of leaving or does this mean she finds joy in being a minister of long standing?” We reached no conclusion. But again, very not mormon!