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Nightingale
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Date: November 15, 2016 06:23PM
EOD: It borders on divisiveness to announce a stand on any religious issue on a board that is basically about getting the heck out of mormonism. The implication exists that, "Hey, my way is the path to follow..."
Discussion of religion can certainly be contentious, as we often see in these parts.
But. "Getting the heck out of mormonism" is complex. There are many common issues, as we see discussed here every day and through the years, but also people have their individual questions, problems, choices, emotions. It's like grief - we can identify with others on a certain level, with common feelings, "stages", regrets, memories, but still each of us has a little parcel of stuff that is unique to ourselves based on our personality, life story, relationship with the loved one who has gone and our way of coping with adversity, etc. That, to me, is the loneliness of grief, that you are experiencing thoughts and feelings that are only yours that can make you feel isolated from anybody else throughout all of eternity.
To one person, the Mormon meetings are boring, JS was a charlatan, they are happy to get out and never look back. It's fun for them to read the posts here and justifiably criticize the church. For another, Mormonism was everything to them and they are the only one who ever left in their entire family. They are a disappointment to their loved ones and the breaches are never healed. It's easy for one to say "get over it", "be happy you're free" but another will say (at least in the midst of their pain) "I wish I never found out". I think this depends a lot on personality and how we deal with life, which is no-fault on any party (i.e., there's no one way to deal with leaving and its aftermath).
Some are only discovering that they need to do some research - for them it may "only" be about getting out of Mormonism at this point. Others are out but grieving, some need to talk over the best ways to try and keep their family together, others - it's unlimited.
For some (and I am one) discussing religion is an immensely important part of the process. Not only in the abstract, such as with arcane musings such as who translated the Bible, but finding out details such as what others think and believe, and why, and then going and doing some reading and research and thinking.
When I first arrived at RfM, I was so fortunate to bump into one poster in particular who with kindness talked to me about a different way of thinking, me still being Christian and him being a happy and avowed atheist. (We went on to become friends in life off the board). Early on, I told him that for me, who had been a Christian since a young age, by my own choice, the concept of God was like a gigantic rock in the road that I couldn't get through. I meant that no matter what information I heard or what anybody at the time was saying here, especially a healthy crop of outspoken and well informed atheists, due to my absolute assurance in what I had chosen to believe and my abiding faith, no matter what, as well as my identification with the basic values of Christianity as I understood them (Love God, Love Your Neighbour pretty much) God was the boulder in the road and I could not even comprehend how to get through the rock to conceptualize even the idea that there is no Creator. (Maybe that doesn't make sense but it's my recollection of how difficult it was to try and see things from an atheist point of view, just could not conceive of "no God").
My good friend said, "Go around the rock" (my visualization had been trying to go *through* it).
Ah. Grasshopper.
So. I went around. Still believe. But at least I am more objective now and can understand "the other side" a bit better.
So, in that one way alone, it has been educational and enlightening for me to wash up at RfM and stay reading quite voraciously for a lot of years now. Along the way, true enough, I have learned about anachronisms in the BoM, the worthlessness of the PoGP, the bait and switch approach of the Mormon Church with its converts, the troublesome missionary program, and a myriad of other church issues that have helped me to process my little Mormon interlude, its beginning, middle and end, and the problems I had there and why. Also instructive was figuring out why I joined and why I left and why it hurt even as much as it did (nothing compared to BICs and their negative experiences over long periods of time).
Besides all that, and more, it is actually allowed here to discuss one's own history and beliefs and activities, even including religious ones. No preaching of course, and sometimes we do differ on what constitutes preaching. But merely stating what we believe in or talking about our own whichever-church activities is part of RfM. Hopefully, that doesn't trigger off a whole lot of PTSD or similar in the readers. Maybe well-crafted subject lines can help to avoid such a result.
Meanwhile, this Christian doesn't mind saying that some of my best friends are atheists! (In fact, quite an alarming number, both here and IRL). :)
And they don't seem to mind my brand of Christianity, which makes me happy. True enough, I manage to curb a rampant impulse to preach at every opportunity. {{jk}}
Re the OP at hand, I don't see that Amyjo is preaching. Not least because she's Jewish. And the post is about Jesus. (Or is my appalling ignorance showing - again)?
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 11/15/2016 06:32PM by Nightingale.