Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: November 25, 2016 02:12AM
Poopstone, don't believe all of the hype!
I have a feeling that you get it, though. Yes, some people are very happy--non-Mormons, Mormons, single, married, large families, cat-ladies--and I believe that happiness doesn't belong to only one narrow demographic. Oh, the temple-married-multiple-child-white-upper-middle-class people are ACTIVELY PROMOTING THEMSELVES as the picture of happiness! Would you really want to photoshop your face onto one of those matching denim-clad gigantic family photos hanging over Mormon fireplaces--really?
It's a proven fact that Fakebook makes people depressed. No one can measure up to a false image. I was extremely happy, raising my children, and I think they are as near perfect as people can be--but I love them unconditionally, so of course I wouldn't change anything. Even so, while raising them, we suffered through the crisis of having their father completely abandon us, of me having to work very hard to support my children, their broken noses, knees, all those childhood diseases, my painful incurable disease that goes in and out of remission, bla-bla. There are others who have suffered more--even those photoshopped Mormon families on Fakebook suffer, because it is life.
I agree that old people in the Mormon cult are ignored. It's just like the principle of shunning. Shun those who veer off the path--also threaten them--and they will come back to the straight-and-narrow. TBM girls usually won't date a young man who refuses to go on a mission. If a couple is not married in the temple, or if a couple has no children, or only 1 or 2, they get pressure and disapproval from their Mormon family and "friends." Disobedient members are shunned also as an example to the others. So, likewise, old people who go on senior missions or do temple work are invited to speak at sacrament meeting, are fussed-over. Their children and grandchildren praise these seniors at fast and testimony meeting. (Has anyone ever said, "I'm so grateful for my grandmother who cooks dinners and does laundry.") My 75-year-old cousin was mentioned in testimony meeting, because she took her turn at cleaning the church building, when she was sick. Old people are admired for their suffering, and "enduring to the end." No retirement parties for being the ward clerk for 35 years. No appreciation for the piano, organ, and teaching callings from the age of 18 to 50. Not even a "Thank you." Just threats and shunning when you stop.
Senior missions used to be for couples only, but I know of a lot of singles who go, now. Senior missionaries are given the false promise of "blessings" to shower down upon their entire family, if they go on a mission. Instead, the old people pay out a lot of money in rent (to church-owned apartments) and fees for their missions. Some go on several missions, until their money or their health is gone.
It is my opinion that this is elder abuse. The cult lies and gives false promises (to everyone) takes their money, makes them clean the church, manipulates them into going on missions to do more cleaning, cooking, and clerical work. (A widow in our ward was called to England to be the housekeeper for the mission president's home. There are "work missions", and our elderly widower neighbor went and did carpentry work in the tropics, and he almost died.
But before you die, a TBM neighbor couple will come to your door, and coerce you into leaving your estate to BYU. That's what happened to my father. My mother was there to help Dad say "No" to the well-dressed, friendly couple, who finally left two hours later with a fat check to BYU.
Amyjo has a good attitude for the holidays. Remember the fun times, and maybe do some of the things you used to enjoy.
This sounds crazy, but one thing I do is to CELEBRATE being free of the cult. We don't have to go to the ward party, or the first presidency fireside, or over-rehearse for the ward choir, or practice with musical performers, or celebrate JS's birthday. Just being home with my dog and a good book gives me a better time, by far!
My wise grandmother used to say, "When you're sad and lonely, do something nice for someone else." There are even more opportunities for volunteer work at Christmas time. (Real charity work, and not minion's busywork for LDS, Inc.
There are worse things than being lonely.