Posted by:
Pariah
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Date: December 31, 2016 02:39PM
My "old ways" were always moral, even outside of Mormonism--especially outside of Mormonism.
I never did believe it was OK to have sex with someone else's spouse. The Mormons were never able to convince me that polygamy was OK, either. I did my share of lying, when I was a Mormon, and I'm relieved to get back to being honest and genuine. Putting up a facade of perfection was exhausting.
Having sex without love or friendship is an emotional lie--it expresses nothing--it brings you nothing (except diseases.)
I have always obeyed the laws of the land, because life is easier that way. When I was a teen-aged driver, I speeded sometimes, and I would stay out after curfew. Now, as an adult, I have nothing to rebel against. Well, maybe I rebel against the evil cult.
I'm an athlete, so I have no desire to make myself sick with alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, sugar, jell-o, funeral potatoes, lard, and other junk food. My own preferences! I'm allergic to wheat, so I don't have anyone making a big fuss about my not eating the sacrament bread. It was easy to go back to wearing pants and Victoria's Secret underwear.
My personal moral codes and boundaries come from my own observations and experiences, and not from Mormonism. Most people are probably too moral to be Mormons.
I have gone back to childhood, and seeing God in nature, and believing in a Creator of the Universe. Mormonism taught me what God is NOT. I have always liked the teachings of Jesus. I believe in unconditional love, but I don't believe in Mormon-style forgiveness.
This sifting out of the bad and the good can seem difficult, but keep at it. It does take time. Just don't swing too far the other way, because that is rebellion. If you rebel too much, that means that the cult is still controlling you. I didn't hurry to join another church or another group, because I didn't want them to influence my beliefs, either.
It can be fun to develop your own NEW set of beliefs and values, because now you are free to follow them--at last!
If my "old life" is judged by others to be "hedonistic", then I don't care! I am responsible for my career and children and possessions, my children are honest, kind, loving, and successful. We are good parents, good drivers, etc. Is it hedonistic to spend weekends playing?
You need to give up on those old Mormon judgments, and stop judging yourself. Relax, and let your true self rise above all the Mormon brainwashing.