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bluebutterfly
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Date: January 18, 2017 03:16PM
So I ran into a TBM in a store yesterday. She is the younger sister of a girl I was good friends with in high school, so we kind of go way back by association. She also lives near me and is in the same ward that I am 'supposed' to be in. The same ward that one of my sisters and also my parents are in. I see this girl semi-regularly just because I run into her in public places, and our children go to the same school.
She makes small talk for a second and then goes right into it: asking me what the deal is with me not going to church and well you were letting your kids go, why not anymore, yadda yadda.
I said that I haven't gone to church in 19 years, this is nothing new. And I did let my daughter go with my parents for a little while until I realized what was going on. I also found RfM during that time (didn't mention that). She asked if I was open to having visiting teachers. I said no. She actually had the nerve to tell me (in a confrontational manner) that if I would just explain myself about why I don't go to church, then I wouldn't have to ever explain again and it wouldn't come up. I had to seriously hold back from laughing and getting upset. This is the same person who ambushed me over the summer in a public place about why I don't go to church. Really? It will never come up again? I explained that I let my daughter attend with my parents for awhile for social reasons, not knowing they were trying to get their hooks into her. They would get upset with me if I told them we had other plans on Sunday...as in me and my own husband and kids, as a family, on DH's only day off.
My reasons for not attending tssc are very personal and I doubt she would even be open to hearing them. So I usually just say to people that my hubby is a nevermo, Sundays are his only day off (self-employed), etc....all of it true. I feel its the only thing people can actually relate to and understand. But it always seems to come up again, despite what she said to me. If I ever laid it all out there I would face a huge shit storm, not ready or willing to do that. Frustrated that TBMs are so nosy and think it's any of their business...
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/19/2017 12:28PM by bluebutterfly.