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Date: February 07, 2017 09:25AM
b.a.adam, just my humble opinion, but your feelings seem to be as raw as feelings can get.
Warning about "pure atheist" sites - it would be difficult to find sites where people demand more evidence for any claims made. If you want to avoid clashing with others using non-scientific claims, you may want to read before posting on them.
It's pretty obvious that you may have been badly abused by mormons, but were they scientists, too? I'm asking because you seem opposed to mainstream science. Mainstream science is like a rock for many exmos; its many well-researched and documented claims show mormononism to be a load of hogwash. Science is like a beloved friend of rational thinking.
Mormonism is non-rational thinking. Since how a person feels is based on how that person thinks, rational thinking can he a basis for recovery. Disputing the non-rational claims of Mormonism with science is a path of healing for many.
Acronyms also seem to trigger you.
I have PTSD too, and when I started communicating with others when coming out of the "emergency phase," my feelings were as raw as yours are now. The "old me" was gone, I was starting to recall some of the abuse and couldn't understand why, or why all of a sudden these very difficult feelings were "invading" my life.
I felt like an alien to myself. I was hyper-sensitive to others. Because I was recalling the actual events of abuse, I at least had a basic grasp of what was now causing the pain.
You have written that you cannot yet recall the abuse, which must be unsettling in the extreme. It can mean that you will seek to "fill in" the reasons for your pain, and can only guess at what might trigger you. It can mean that you are very vulnerable to theories and definitions of things (and people) that might cause you harm. Right now, you might feel overwhelmed by those thoughts.
I read the superbowl thread, but didn't participate, because of what I believed I was seeing: A young-ish man in terrible pain, trying to identify some predictability in his world. Others may or may not have seen what I saw, but many of the reactions came in cold and harsh with rational thinking, the thing that had led them away from the pain.
This board will trigger you, but those triggers will also help to ground you in rational thought, if you let them. Right now, you may he too raw to be triggered constantly, and I completely understand your desire for a safer place. I would like to suggest PTSD healing boards, where you may be more likely to find the kind of support safe for you.
There are a fair number of atheists on PTSD boards, because so many traumatized people rationalize that a loving god would inflict much less trauma on his "children."
Nothing prevents you from being on several boards, and if and when you start recalling specific incidents of being abused by mormons, you may find this to be a very safe place. Right now, I think that without those memories, you are trying to avoid talk of mormons, to avoid being triggered without understanding why you HAVE been triggered.
You are welcome here. It is my wish for you to find a mix of boards and support to help you continue to heal. I hope that this board will be one of them.