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midwestanon
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Date: February 23, 2017 02:52PM
It's interesting that you should bring this up. I can distinctly remember a conference talk from my youth where a general Authority went on and on about how a life of hard work, service, and pious prayer and humility before the Lord is the only satisfying and correct way to live, and the only way of living that will ultimately make you happy.
As he was speaking, all I could think was how much nonsense that it sounded like, and how completely contrary it sounded to Human Nature. There is so much that humans do, even at the most instinctual level, to avoid suffering. And there's a reason for that- avoiding suffering is one of the ways we ensure our survival, because potential suffering could lead to potential death, which would make us unavailable to propagate our species, which would result in our Extinction, depending on the kind of suffering or injury or whatever specifically happens. To dive headlong into a lifestyle of suffering and hard work, leaving absolutely no time for leisure pursuits, which seems like the attitude that the church is very much in favor of, seems counterintuitive. Contrary to what the church says, it seems like a lifestyle that will ultimately leave you miserable, on your deathbed asking: 'Why did I spend so much time at the office? Or in the bishopric? Or doing asinine and ultimately meaningless Church work? Why didn't I spend more time with my family, going to picnics, or the beach, or playing football or baseball with my kids? Was my devotion to God as a so-called insurance policy to assure my spot in the Celestial Kingdom really a worthwhile exchange for the happiness I could have had with my family?'
As I have so often thought and talked about here, as have many other posters, the church has no concept of balance. There's nothing wrong with serving others, and if you have to suffer for an ultimately worthwhile gain, that's fine. But that's not what your life should be about, and the church should not be preaching such filth. There is nothing wrong with people who want to work hard in the short-term, or in their careers in general, or make a lot of money so they can ultimately relax and do the things that are really meaningful to them, and will ultimately make them happy.
I have an... Older male role model who I wonder how exactly he approaches this exact topic. He works a lot, is in his late fifties, and his health isn't the best. He is over a hundred pounds overweight. He has spent a lot of his life in school, and the past couple of decades in a demanding profession where he is in charge of a lot of people and responsible for instituting complex policies for a huge company. I have often wondered if he prefers work to spending time with his family. Over the past few years, as he has been able to do parts of his job from home, I have noticed that he spends more time at home, but it is not necessarily productive time with his family. It seems like he is either mostly taking phone calls, doing work on the computer, or doing his church work. so even though it seems like he has gotten something he wanted -maybe-, which is not spending so much time at work or away from his home, his mind is still where his body is no longer.
The thing is, I don't know if doing work is what makes him happy. I think it does in some sense, but I think it's more a value system for him. I think that he thinks that a life is not well lived unless you are working as hard as you can, as much as you can. I think it's the only thing he knows how to do, so I don't really know if it's happiness necessarily or not. I just think it's the only thing he knows how to do. And I blame the influence of the church for this, and for the perceptions I have about him, which for all I know could be completely wrong. It just seems like he loves work more than he loves being with his family, or at least prefers work.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 02/23/2017 03:06PM by midwestanon.