Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: April 27, 2017 07:14PM
My daughter cried after her temple ceremony, "This is NOT what I thought my wedding would be like!"
--Her father couldn't go into the temple
--None of her bridesmaids could go into the temple
--All of the groom's siblings were too young to go into the temple.
--A few Mormon married friends were allowed in, and the groom's parents, and me (cost me a couple of thou $)
--The "officiator" never mentioned love or cherish, or even the word marriage!
--We spent most of the time looking for her lost locker key.
--Outside, in the 103-degree heat, everyone had to wait at the popular photo spots, for other bridal parties. I had hired the photographer for the reception only, and told her I didn't want any temple pictures, but she was a friend of the groom's TBM family, and showed up at the temple anyway. The photos and the locker incident made us late for the reception.
I told my crying daughter that her REAL marriage happened when they signed the marriage license, in the little side room at the temple. (I was the only one there to witness that--weird!) Her REAL wedding hadn't happened yet--it was the fun reception, that she and I had carefully planned together. She and I had chosen a good dinner buffet, and dessert, a fountain of sparkling cider in champagne glasses, live music, dancing on the patio, at a place that the children enjoyed--with a duck pond, streams, and a game room.
I think Mormons are glum at the receptions, because the temple ceremony is a downer! They have to wear a silly-looking hat and a smothering veil that ruins the hairdo, plus sleeves and a collar to cover the wedding dress. The "officiator" preaches at everyone, and then the couple pledges to be "joined (not married) in the new and everlasting covenant of the church of jesus christ of latterday saints bla-bla. No kiss. No ring. 15 minutes, tops, not counting everyone shuffling in and out and down the hall with all the other brides and grooms. Meh. They have to get up at dawn to get ready to make the early morning sealing room rental time, and stand around for hours--no one gets to sit. I know a lot of couples who agree to wait until the next day, before they have their "perfect" sex, because they are too exhausted and stressed out.
In Mormonism, the church comes first, and I hate the way Mormonism has intruded itself into marriages.
What saps we were, to give thousands and thousands, per person, to the cult, and then have cheap-o reception in a gym.