have you seen this? Talking to the Bishop. Friends about her husband. Now the whole ward knows he has looked at porn and is now labeled a porn addict.

http://t.emails.ldsliving.com/r/?id=h2a86a2d5,98fcf22,98fec28

She does write about talking to the bishop and other women in her ward that are similarly "suffering."

If her husband is a sex addict (having uncontrolled sex with multiple partners in a destructive pattern), she should just divorce him.

If he has just been looking at porn and she has blown this out of proportion to the point of blabbing about it to the bishop and everyone else in the ward, then I would completely understand his filing for divorce. People in a marriage need to respect the privacy of their partner, unless they intend to end the marriage.

This "porn addiction" obsession of the Mormon Church could not be more destructive to marriages. Further, this lack of respect for privacy by bishops and Mormons in general is absolute poison for marriages.

When a wife or husband publicly humiliates their spouse on this level, the spouse has every reason in the world to end this toxic marriage devoid of respect or trust.

I'm of the opinion that people in a marriage need to respect the privacy of their partner even if they DO intend to end the marriage.

Discussing intimate details of any relationship publicly, unless it is a question of public safety (such as rape or pedophilia) is unacceptable.

Her statement:


"Dealing with someone who lives much of their life in addict brain is difficult."


I don't think that comment is really required.

""Dealing with someone who lives much of their life in addict brain is difficult."

That statement could just as easily apply to TMB's.

Exactly.

Her addiction to non-thinking, feel-good dictates in pursuit of an imaginary magic kingdom is a much larger, life-damaging choice than an enjoyment of porn.

At least porn is reality based, even if not exactly real. It's certainly more real than the CK.

Joseph Smith was the first mormon "sex addict."
Probably nobody other than Brigham has exceeded his excesses.

Perhaps this wife might consider such influences from church history on her husband...

If I were her husband I would divorce her for no other reason than that she put their personal business on the World Wide Web for all to read.

I note that she finds masturbation unacceptable as well. I think she should find a man who does not masturbate. [/s]

A simple task really, give Utahans low consumption of porn [/s]

Wow, this lady is so disrespectful of her husband, and she just doesn't get it. Unfortunately, she was raised with this dysfunctional view on life. I feel sorry for the abused husband, he needs to get out of this relationship, and they both need to get away from Mormonism, fast.

The thing that gets me upset the most, is that these women actually believe that most of the men in the ward don't look at porn occasionally. I'm not saying porn is 100% a-okay, I actually believe that it should be avoided or reasonable limited (even though for 99% of men it will never be avoided 100%), but the humiliation and degradation that her husband is going through because of her and the church is far worse than any damage that will come from porn.

It's stories like these that spread the problem within Mormonism. Views that complete ignore reality. She doesn't even realize that the Apostles were forced to move on from the word masturbation. Now they can only use the words "self abuse" and imply that some how masturbation falls into this category. Sure we could think that the Apostles wised up to the damage they were causing, and are moving on, but it's more likely that PR told them they'd lose in court saying that masturbation was evil, so they found another way to say the same thing to the unknowing members.

I wish that I had the power to completely eliminate male porn addiction in any and all forms. I would do it, and I would NEVER allow it to come back.

With in a few days society would openly be wondering what the Hell had happened. With in a few weeks society would be desperately trying to figure out how to remedy the problem and decrying the severity of the plight. I would be laughing, knowing that things would never be the same.

Oh my, this poor woman is truly sucked in to everything tscc. Several things she says game me serious eye-roll moments.

>Women expect their spouse to do three things: provide, preside, and protect. Okay, fine but I never expected (nor would I have tolerated) my spouse to preside!

She wants this danger brought to light because Satan likes to do his work in darkness!?

She wants the youth to be taught about the *dangers* of pornography and....*masturbation*! One of the things that disturbs me most about tscc is that young men are taught to feel ashamed about a very natural and healthy habit.

In a relationship between two equals, the husband would have brought the wife into his "fantasy" world of porn and told her how much he enjoyed it and wanted to enjoy it with him.

The wife would have tried it out with him and seen how she liked/disliked it and made a decision.

Regardless of the decision, each would have benefited from honesty and known where to go from there.

If the husband chose porn and masturbation exclusively over the wife, that would be a problem.

If the wife chose NO porn (with or without her) allowed for the husband, that would have been a problem.

See how adults handle things?

Woman who complain about things like Porn and equate it as cheating make me sick at times.

It's OBVIOUS they've NEVER HAD someone TRULY cheat on them. If they had, they'd realize they'd give anything in the world if they could have a husband that only looked at pornography.

I'd rather 10 million times over that a husband would sate his sick desires looking at pornography rather than going out and cheating in ANY fashion, emotional or physically (or both...yeah...ask me about divorce...a now single woman working to support her kids) or having that same husband run off with another person without a second thought.

I'd like to slap those woman into reality at times...but that's not being polite.

Who came up with the really stupid idea of thinking pornography was the same as someone who cheats on their spouse.

That individual should be hanged, quartered, and drowned, but not allowed to die, instead be tortured for the rest of eternity until they learn the difference and see the REAL hurt and pain of a woman whose husband ran off on her and her children.

I could say more...but yes...stories of woman who divorce their husbands because of some mistaken idea that pornography equals cheating and then

(Because they remarry) as per the New Testament teachings on those who divorce WITHOUT one's spouse actually committing adultery...

Actually DO go and remarry and hence commit the greater sin of adultery themselves...

I'm thinking they have the greater sin on themselves.

And those who remain married and try to guilt their spouses into thinking their spouses cheated when they didn't...I'd imagine those abused spouses are FAR more saintly than any witch or warlock (I'd use far more vulgur terms, but trying to obey the rules here) who accuses them of far more than what they actually did.

pretend I'm not looking and my wife pretends she isn't catching me. Works for us. :)

They seem obsessed with porn now. I know exactly what the topic was going to be before my Ensign comes in the mail, every single issue it is mentioned. I never liked the part of the church where you had to confess everything to the bishop.
You could tell which young unmarried couple in the church had the talk, because they wouldn't take sacrament that Sunday.
The article didn't say what was considered " porn".
Child pornography? Xxx sex pictures, women in bikinis?
I'm sure some bishops have their peek too, since you don't have to be 18 anymore to receive it, so it's right on their internet also.

I recently read a marriage book/memoir by a woman who has a blog I really enjoy. It's mildly Christian but didn't seem too overwhelmingly churchy. In the first few pages, she admitted her "porn addiction" and "erotica addiction." I hoped maybe that would be that and she'd move on...but later there was an entire chapter about how her fantasies while watching porn a couple times a week nearly led to a divorce. Omg. A COUPLE TIMES A WEEK IS A PORN ADDICTION.



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Porn is a problem if it interferes with intimacy in a marriage. It hurts when one's spouse would rather jerk off to porn than be intimate.

It would be funny if so many people weren't getting hurt. They should have drawn their battle lines with more discretion. At least now they have a bogeyman to take their minds off of all of their other problems. It's better this way for all of the <insert minority group here>. A side benefit is that the guys get thrown under the bus for supporting such a stupid organization.