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CA girl
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Date: May 04, 2017 09:52PM
Another thread talked about how women are treated in the Mormon church and viewed in LDS culture. I have to say, I think men are treated like crap too. Both men and women are taught terrible generalizations about the opposite sex. Not all TBMs buy into these generalizations - it depends a lot on the person's common sense and upbringing. But the generalizations seem to abound like the ideas "People only leave the church because they are offended" or "You will become a terrible person if you leave the church."
About Men - Women are taught that men are more righteous the more prosperous they are. That men are immoral and that they need the church's teaching to keep them in line and faithful. They are taught that a man who doesn't serve a mission or doesn't want to marry in the temple is somehow second class. That it's OK to expect a man to take care of you - to be a constant handsome prince. That it's OK to marry an image rather than really looking hard at the person you are going to marry and viewing them as a unique individual. It's more important how a guy fits the prescribed LDS Man description. They are taught that men prefer women who are childlike and submissive and that men probably want you to stay home with the kids even if said men have to work two jobs.
About Women - Men are also taught that women should fit into the church's image - beautiful, a good homemaker, willing to let the guy be the head of the household, willing to give up her career for the family. That women need priesthood supervision. That when they are a single, RM that most women are dying to get their hands on that man's giant ... um priesthood. They are taught women need a man to get them into heaven. Prior to their mission, that women are a temptation to lead them away from serving. They learn that women need permission from the priesthood to simply serve in the church and that they can get revelation for their womenfolk, but not the other way around.
I know I'm forgetting a lot and I know that some of these things are easing with the younger generation. I also want to say again, not everyone falls for these generalizations and many good people have more sense. But these trends to believe misinformation about men and women and relationships are still prevalent in the church and damaging to both parties.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/04/2017 09:54PM by CA girl.