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scmd
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Date: May 12, 2017 05:05PM
cl2 Wrote:
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> about why she isn't married. One is that if she
> stayed in Utah all the time instead of working in
> Alaska 5 to 7 months of the year and sometimes
> living in Tennessee that she'd be married by now.
> I told her you have to live your life and not just
> sit around and wait. Nothing more depressing than
> that.
>
>
> P.S. This isn't that "fake." When I was in a
> singles ward, the SP came to give a talk at a
> "fireside." He told the women that if they just
> put on lipstick and wore fingernail polish, blah,
> blah, blah. It was very insulting. Did he not even
> look around the room? Most of the women in that
> ward went all out with dressing nice, hair nice,
> etc. The guys were a mixed bag. It is OBVIOUSLY
> our fault if we aren't married by 19. It was my
> fault my gay ex cheated, too. Always the woman's
> fault.
When my family was in the mission field, I once was dragged along with my parents(I was maybe 14) to a Stake Young Adult Fireside at which the speaker whose calling I cannot recall, though he may have been the Stake Young Adult Leader, chose as his topic why those single females present were not married.. I'm not sure why my parents found it necessary to attend unless they heard in advance what it was the guy planned to do and wanted to be there for damage control purposes.
While he spoke to all single sisters (with the males present; none of them were at fault in any way, but they got to be present to watch the sisters be chastised) about the things they were doing wrong that were making them unappealing to the available pool of priesthood holders.
It soon became apparent that the idiot's remarks were directed almost exclusively at two of the women.One was at least moderately hot by most standards. She was a bit of a late-bloomer and was taking her time completing her education though she was extremely bright. She was a kind and caring girl who spent entirely too much time helping others with their problems, which might of accounted for why it was taking her so long to complete her undergraduate degree.At twenty-three, she was still in her final year of an undergraduate program.Though she didn't go out of her way to show off her brain power (though she dominated trivia games), my parents thought her intelligence may have been off-putting to the single priesthood holders.
The other was an older sister to the twenty-three-year-old. I think she was twenty-eight. She was a returned missionary and had a career prior to serving on her mission, yet seemed to be floundering after returning from her mission. She, too, was quite sharp, though not as much so as her prettier and younger sister. She might have been called one of the "sweet spirits' except that she had a bit of an abrasive personality. In other words, she wasn't particularly attractive. She did have a die-hard faith in anything the church professed.
The two sisters were seated next to one-another. At some point, the speaker gave up on any pretext of speaking to the group at large and looked directly at the two sisters as he spoke. He talked of how not every woman could be physically attractive, but that a woman could do herself a few favors by making herself as presentable as possible any time she left her home. Learn a few make-up and hair tips from the sisters who were married or engaged and obviously had the techniques down. "Does either one of you even OWN a can of hairspray?" the speaker asked the two sisters, giving up any pretext of speaking to the group as a whole.He even mentioned hygiene. It was at this point that my mom's blood began to boil, as neither of these women nor any woman present had known issues with hygiene. I really think he was just looking for ways to humiliate the women at this point.
Then he moved on to the topic of abrasive personalities in women, how they can be off-putting to men, and how, because men hold the priesthood, those who hold the priesthood would have to be considered the intellectual superiors to those who don't in spite of any worldly knowledge or in spite of the results of any worldly intelligence quota assessments.He also stated that any supposed advantages a woman might have in terms of supposed intelligence were beneficial to a mate only as far as they helped the family's finances. Children, the speaker erroneously stated, get their intelligence solely from their father.
He started to sum things up by saying, again looking directly at the two sisters, that a woman might overcome a deficit in any one area he'd highlighted and still find a marriage mate, but if she was lacking in multiple areas, her chances were next to nil. He started to highlight his key points, beginning with 'lack of "physical attractiveness," actually pointing at the hot sister as he listed the quality. Tears started to stream down her cheeks, and my mom, who should have spoken up sooner, interrupted the man.
"Brother #%^, exactly what scripture is your source for all of this nonsense?" my mom demanded.
He started to quote the Proverbs 31 passage about "Who can find a virtuous woman?" but my mom cut him off. "You haven't said anything that even marginally relates to that! You're just making this up as you go along. you seem to have a problem with intelligent and assertive woman, and you're using this bully pulpit to extract revenge!"
The speaker told my dad to control my mom. My dad held his hands up and said, "I NEVER try to control her.
The event ended without a closing prayer.
The homelier sister is still a total morgbot. She obtained a bachelor's degree in psychology and worked for CPS and related agencies, changing agencies for whom she worked every two years or so, and faithfully giving 10 % of her paltry earnings to the LDS church.
The hot sister is a pharmacist and hasn't been inside an LDS church, to the best of my mom's knowledge, since that evening. My mom heard that she got married to an MD about a year after completing pharmacy school. A few years ago she won a large sum of money on a TV game show.She has two kids. She's happy.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/12/2017 05:40PM by scmd.