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SusieQ#1
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Date: May 22, 2017 02:01PM
Whenever possible, I am in the camp of: You are on a need to know basis, and you're not on the list!
Changing your mind about your religious choices is a private matter and nobody else's business -- however, it does require some explanation when ensconced, like many are in TBM temple marriages, Mormon extended family, etc. There are exceptions to my prefered position, of course.
My preferred position is to keep private things private. Mormonism has an uncanny ability to pry into your life about things that are none of their business, but it's accepted as part of the culture. It's inappropriate and rude to inquire about someone's religious leanings.
You asked for advice. My view, at this point would be to quietly keep backing out, keep your opinions to yourself, change the subject when asked inappropriate questions that are nobody else's business.
This is about protecting your privacy. It's not sneaky, it's self preservation.
You can always take a very limited approach when asked point blank: "I didn't see you at church", is often asked. My reply was: "That's right. I have not been there."
When someone asked if I "had been offended" my reply was: "If everyone that had ever been offended at church there would be no one there." (That usually got a laugh!)
Then I change the subject. The best tactic seemed to be to ask something about them. People like to talk about their lives. So I listen, sincerely, and smile and wish them well when I need to leave.
For me, the best approach (after making some big messes!) was about being kind, sincere, and respectful. My serious concerns about their religion is not a relationship builder!
On the other hand, if you don't care what anyone thinks, you can go the other route and say something like ; "That religion is a hoax, scam, cult! Have a nice day" smile, and walk away. ;-)
It's all up to you! I say: use your gut, your intuition to give you a sense of what to say to whom and when.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/22/2017 02:02PM by SusieQ#1.