Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: July 23, 2017 03:59PM
Yes, the good news is that your children are on their way out, but, you are probably right, there will be fallout, unless your wife forms an understanding, over time.
Mormons think manipulative lies is the norm, part of the "best-way-to-raise-kids" Mormon parenting philosophy. In the real world, it is a form of abuse.
As a devout TBM mother, I still never spoke to my children, like your wife did. I felt it was not "ethical" to guilt-trip kids, and to heap blame onto them, when their fragile egos couldn't take it. Stripping a child of his ego, is part of brainwashing.
Don't worry so much! Children are way smarter than Mormon parents are told to believe they are. I know that your daughter, in her heart, knew that her baptism was NOT A CHOICE, and that her mother was lying to her, when she said it was her own choice. No matter how many times I read the BOM to my children, and taught them those stupid Primary lessons (that I believed at the time), my children could never believe the Joseph Smith story, or any of the other tall tales.
Your wife might come around, like I did. They day I "came around" was when I sat them down at the breakfast table, looked them in the eye, and asked them, "WHY do you hate church so much?" Then, I sat back, and listened to what they had to say. It was an earful! They told me about repeated physical abuse and bullying, an attempted molestation, adult-generated slander and gossip against my children and me, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual promiscuity--all of it, in our own neighborhood Mormon ward. I had known about a lot of Mormon adult business frauds, spousal cheating, lying, stealing, etc, but had kept it hidden from my children, not wanting them to lose respect for Mormon authority. It would follow, I suppose, that their children would be just as corrupt.
Watch out, that your children don't learn to lie, from their mother's example. I believe that young kids have a natural genuineness and strength of character, and that they learn corruption, through bad examples. Keep them straight, as to what the Truth is, and be loving and real, yourself. I always had integrity, even though I was a Mormon, and I valued that in my children. Integrity and Love, above all else. Family above religion, always. Show them kindness and understanding, and maybe demonstrate, through example, how to set boundaries and stand up to bullying. Hopefully, you can avoid the "repercussions," that lie ahead.
The highest and best solution to your family problem is to help your wife to see the Truth. This is something we all wish we could do, with our still-Mormon loved ones! We will never give up trying.
To be sure, the worst problem in my family's life--the thing we fought about the most, what made us the most unhappy--was that damn cult!
After our talk at the breakfast table, I told the kids that we never had to go to that church again! This was when I still, pretty much, believed, but was still able to follow my heart. My heart told me that child abuse is evil, and the temple blood oaths were evil, and that demanding tithing from the poor to buy real estate and build malls for the rich, and to lie about polygamy, seer stones, and Mormon authority from God--all that was evil, too.
Children can be wiser than adults, sometimes; hence, brainwashing is necessary. Don't let that happen to your kids. You can weather the storms, and come out the other side, and still keep loving your wife. I hope you resolve things before your oldest child reaches missionary age!
Sorry for the rant, but I'm pissed, too.
"No words can describe how much I hate TSCC."