Posted by:
Swiss miss
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Date: September 30, 2017 03:00AM
Something's been bothering me for over 30 years and I'd like to hear your thoughts so I can have some closure.
When I was at Ricks college (now BYU Idaho) I had a teacher who took a fancy to me, probably because I was blonde and had a nice figure. I was very shy and I think he sensed my vulnerability because he asked me to stay after class and have a talk with him in his office. He said he was worried about me because I looked sad, and then he proceeded to interrogate me with personal questions the way men in positions of authority in the Mormon church tend to do. I answered all questions like I'd been groomed to do from a young age.
My teacher invited me to his house for family home evening that night. He was married with eight children. I was a little homesick and accepted his invitation.
When I arrived at his house his wife answered the door. I'll never forget the look of hurt on her face when she saw me. It seems that I wasn't the first pretty young woman her husband had brought home for dinner. I felt really sorry for her, the mother of his eight children.
I enjoyed having dinner with his nice family and afterwords we all went out to the sand dunes for family home evening. I spent a lot of time chatting with the teacher.
He was very friendly to me after that and dropped by my apartment a couple of times, enough so that my roommates started to tease me. I assured them that nothing inappropriate was happening. I was super TBM and would never even consider having an affair.
One day he invited me to McDonalds for a hamburger - just me and him. When he dropped me off at my apartment he held my hand, looked deeply into my eyes and told me that I was special. I was a little uncomfortable but ate up every word since I had low self esteem. While he was holding my hand my roommate walked by and teased me. The teacher was embarrassed and he never took me out again. He pretty much ignored me for the rest of the semester. I saw him in the school hallway chatting with another pretty blond young woman - - I'd been replaced!
Was it inappropriate (such a Mormon word) for my teacher to hold hands with me, a teenager, in his car and tell me that I was special, or was it perfectly okay and just a kind gesture? It's been bothering me for a long time.