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Date: October 17, 2017 12:37AM
My niece, not Alexis, whom some of you dislike, but Alyssa, who is 23 and my oldest sister's daughter, and hasn't to the best of my knowledge, done anything to offend anyone here, was made stake primary chorister in her stake on the coast in California. Their stake primary held an inservice recently. Alyssa was told to go over new and to prepare a pertinent presentation for the other "choristers" (I hate the term as used by the LDS) breakout session. She did so; she had asked the other "choristers" to share something each had created for teaching a song or songs, and had purchased the materials needed for each so that the other "choristers could use the materials to make the materials the others shared or to make something else if they wanted. She's young and enthusiastic, and worked hard to be prepared for her presentation. she got in touch with each ward chorister to find out what each would be sharing so that she could obtain the materials needed for others to re-created each item. The one "chorister" who hadn't responded to her was the "chorister" of the largest and wealthiest ward's primary (and, not so incidentally, the stake president's wife).
As my niece had concluded introducing the songs she was asked to introduce and was by sharing her own idea as first before asking the other "choristers" to do the same, the stake president's wife walked in about ten minutes late. Instead of quietly taking her seat, she interrupted my niece by saying, "I have something to say and I can't be here for long, so I'm going to say it now."
Without waiting for my niece's or for anyone else's OK, the stake president's wife proceeded to take over the meeting. despite her initial comment that she couldn't stay for long, she took up the entire meeting. Her remarks were on two topics, the first of which was that when she directed a stake children's choir five years or so earlier, some of the children from the two small branches in the stake were unfamiliar with the songs that had been sung in the children's sacrament meeting presentation the prior year, and that ward primary choristers did not have the right to deprive the children of the messages contained in those songs. (My niece had no idea what the stake president's wife was even talking about because she moved to California from Utah less than three years earlier.)
The stake president's wife's next topic was that a sister in the stake (who happened to be the stake president's wife's niece) is with child and out of wedlock, and that unwed knocked up sister was a MUSICIAN! (My niece's WARD calling is that of music director for the ward. As such, she is supposed to be consulted regarding filling the various music positions for the ward, but the auxiliary heads don't usually consult her, probably thinking she knows nothing because she's only twenty-three, and there's probably some truth to what they think; she's not the brightest bulb. None of it had anything to do with my niece's stake calling as Primary "chorister.") The expectant mother lives in my niece's ward. She had been the sacrament meeting chorister two years earlier, but she flaked and repeatedly no-showed or showed up flagrantly late to sacrament meeting without any warning, so the bishopric eventually released her.
What my niece and at least one other person present at the inservice got out of the stake president's wife's diatribe was that it was somehow my niece's fault that the stake president's wife's niece had gotten pregnant. Had the expectant mother been serving in a music calling, her sex drive and/or that of her partner would have been reduced, or their method of birth control would have been more fool-proof.
What is it about Mormonism that makes members want to blame each other for the actions of third parties? For the record, the expectant mother in question is 25 years old. She was divorced about three years ago after her brief temple marriage didn't work out. She's an LVN currently enrolled in an RN program, and as such should know how pregnancy happens and how it is most effectively prevented. She should be old enough to manage her own life to some degree unless she asks for help, which she apparently has not done.
I suppose people like the stake pres's wife are ultimately doing my niece a favor if they cause her to see the light concerning the church sooner rather than later.