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BYU Boner
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Date: December 22, 2017 11:54PM
Elder Berry Wrote:
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> I think there is an element of rebellion against
> me in my kids. I'm the less good parent.
Probably, but rebellion is normal; it’s necessary or a child won’t ever leave the home.
BTW, I could have written your post! Here’s what happened many years ago with my daughter. My wife had been giving me shit when my daughter turned seven. My wife wanted me to do the baptism and confirmation. I didn’t want to do them because I didn’t believe in Mormonism.
When my beautiful daughter turned eight, she was interviewed to determine her worthiness for baptism. I’m going to let that sink in, a child was being grilled to determine WORTHINESS for BAPTISM!
My wife fought with me until finally I talked to the bishop. He was a turd. He told me he knew this was tearing my marriage apart, “But, I’ve got to protect the church.”
That’s right, Elder, a Boner is going to destroy Mormonism! Fuck! I wish I could just hurt it a little. Anyhow, I told him I understood, BUT he would have to tell my daughter that her father was a bad man. A day later, he reconsidered.
He told me I could baptize because I’m a Christian, but couldn’t confirm—that was a higher ordinance. HA! Show me confirmation in the New Testament! So, I baptized, my FIL confirmed. I felt disgusted with myself for being a part of something so evil. I told my wife I would NEVER be put into that situation again, and that the bishop was a shitty theologian. The option of baptizing other kids was never raised.
My daughter despised me through adolescence. She married in the temple, and I stood outside. I celebrated the day with her and my new SIL. Many years later, guess who they come to with big questions or when they’re hurting? The Mom with the Sunday School answers or the Dad who has always been there supporting them?
Stay cool, Elder, fuck the cult, but don’t take anger on the wife or kids. Your children will come back to you (actually, they never really will leave you). Be the man who loves his kids and tells them why he loves them. They are yours Elder. You are like me—a good, but imperfect, man. That’s the way we’re supposed to be, Bro.
I’ve read your posts over the years. You’re smart, genuine, compassionate, and overcome a difficult growing up. In other words, you’re fuckin’ remarkable! If I can glean that from your posts, think of what your kids pick up! Bro hugs, man!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/22/2017 11:58PM by BYU Boner.