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Mother Who Knows
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Date: February 07, 2018 04:52PM
I had exactly the same experience in the parking lot of our neighborhood grocery store, with my cousin. She's 5 years older, but I could keep up with her, swimming, water skiing, hiking riding horses, at our cabin on a lake, which our fathers built together. We lived in different states, but we spent our summers together, and both of us went to the U of Utah. Now, we both live in Utah, but her side of the family are very wealthy, and are extreme Mormon fanatics, holding several GA positions, mission and temple presidents, etc. She was RS president and stake RS president. My side of the family are nothing, in the Mormon social hierarchy. She has always been a snob, and a snarky gossip, about our other cousins. Yeah, the gossiping got on my nerves...so I wouldn't have chosen her as a trusted friend, in the first place, had we not been related.
We both live in the same neighborhood, now. As soon as she heard I had gone inactive, she stopped speaking to me, altogether. She just looks the other way, as if I weren't there. My Mormon neighbors and fake-friends act the same way.
Like you other posters, I did feel all those emotions, and the guilt, at first. I feel pretty good that these feelings last only a few minutes, now.
Your relative didn't wave to you, either, right? You weren't the one to break up with her.
It does get easier, as you move forward in your new life, and associate with happier, more friendly people, who don't think they are better than everyone else, and with whom you have more in common.