Posted by:
goodbyemoroni
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Date: March 07, 2018 08:48PM
We recently took the step to completely cut off contact with my MIL, at least temporarily, due to her continual violation of clearly set boundaries around religion. We never had a great relationship, but I'm distressed it has come to this. DH initiated this and I was in full agreement. At least we as a couple are united- so there is that.
The boundary was clearly communicated- multiple times. We let her know each time it was crossed. It spiraled recently and we even said you have to stop this, you are violating our boundaries, you are harassing us, etc. We just blocked her phone number/email/FB, etc. I never thought we would ever feel the need to do this with a family member, as we have traditionally been the peacemakers.
I wish I could not let what she says get to me, but I'm hurt and angry. The final straw was her attacking our parenting and our children. One of our children is gay and they can't accept that. We can't be good parents without the spirit and are letting our kids go astray. She seems to want us to force our child to be straight (?) and make them go to church even if we don't. We have to be the adults and aren't acting like the adults. I guess we can ruin our eternal lives, but at least need to save theirs. It's like no- I never considered how this would affect my children. One of the reasons I left was FOR my children. Apparently she has the "right" to say all of this as she is the mom/grandma...uh no.
She has in effect chosen the church over her family. Who does that?
I have no one to talk to because even though I'm angry and feel wronged, I don't really want to bad mouth her to people we know. I'm sure she is about us though. My nevermo friends just don't fully "get" this.