It was a blend of being harassed by a poster who said I had no right to be on RfM because I didn't grow up Mormon and wasn't even a convert and the Mormon who almost killed me showing back up in town and terrifying me that made me drop off the board.

They lost.

I'm back.

Good, because I like trying to say your name!

Welcome back, siobhan...it is good to see your name again.


siobhan Wrote:
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> It was a blend of being harassed by a poster who
> said I had no right to be on RfM because I didn't
> grow up Mormon and wasn't even a convert...

There are a number of nevermos on RfM (for all kinds of reasons), including me--and I've been here fifteen years now!

Welcome back, Siobhan.

Tom in Paris
also a nevermo but I've only been here for 11 years ;-)

... a further thought: Being on RfM isn't about rights, it's about power. Ya gotz ta take it!!

While I can't claim to have been a never Mo, I'm happy to say that I'm nearing the half-way mark where I've been out of the church longer than I was in it.

Welcome back! Missed your posts.

Tevai has been a non-Mormon so long that we have collectively bestowed upon her the status of "honorary non-Mormon."

Welcome back, siobhan.

Dang, I've got another four years to go. lol

Good to have you back, Siobhan!

Summer, you are on the accelerated track.

Any day now.

Lot's Wife Wrote:
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> Tevai has been a non-Mormon so long that we have
> collectively bestowed upon her the status of
> "honorary non-Mormon."

Thank you, Lot's Wife...

On behalf of all of my fellow nevermos, I very humbly accept this extremely valued and appreciated title.

:)

Welcome back. Sorry you had a virtual "stalker". A pox on them.

We are all too familiar with the poster who harassed me off the board.
As far as the stalker, he is another regular poster but very much real life unfortunately. I believe he has left town but the local police are very well aware of him and looking for any excuse to lock him up if he comes back.

Well, we now know what to look for. If he tries it again, we'll gang up on him and teach him the meaning of harassment. We'll also sic admin on his sorry ass.

P.S. I still can't pronounce your name. Guessing it's Celtic.

Ask and you shall receive.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHfXjmJcqfE

Yea it is true i am going to try my hand at the real world full time with no crutch and i think i will actually do well. I leave the site to the recovered and the never-mo's. I am considerably better than when i began and don't really feel like i need to hide anymore and most of my surgeries are complete anyways besides a couple. This is only supposed to be an intermittent step for me to get to a real life and i don't want to abuse it. Someone said why was i even on this board anymore and i saw that as a sign of really graduating. I am sure i will mess up and come back to talk to the boner every once in a while. I think all i really wanted was to get real friends in the real world and get out of pain. I wish you guys luck on the next decade on the site. Just had to get myself to a certain point where i was satisfied with myself. I was getting too angry and i think i am past that. Whatever happens in the mormon world or the ex-mo world really doesn't matter anymore. I really will pull this off.

Wellcome back Luvie.

I also was almost murdered by my RM Mormon temple husband. He was a big bully, who pretended to be a sweet, gentle giant with a big smile and warm handshake. He was after my money and connections at BYU, and he conned my entire family. His GA family didn't warn us about his history of assault and battery. He had almost killed his little sister.

I had to drop out of RFM, in the beginning, and then I changed my moniker a while back.

People don't know the meaning of fear, until they are stalked by one of those monsters. My heart goes out to you!

I hope you have gotten therapy, because almost being killed can cause PTSD. I have it, and probably always will, but cognitive therapy can help me control the flashbacks, and reason myself out of it.

I have survived severe earthquakes, a hurricane, a crash-landing, falling and dangling off a cliff, breaking my arm skiing, being chased down the back alleyways of Venice alone in the dark, being tortured and bullied by my brother--I was always fearless!

But whenever I walked into a Mormon temple, my intestines would go into knots, and I would feel nauseated. I still have "Mormon nausea." It's a physical as well as a psychological aversion. My thug ex has 3 temple wives, that he claims are still his property for eternity. The Mormon cult considers him to be a "member in good standing" and he's a big tithe-payer, is arrogant, and throws his weight around. Just like his Big 15 relative. He gives speeches all over, and cries on cue.

I still can't drive alone in a car with a man, unless he's a relative or long-time friend. Loud, low noises make me want to scream. I still have my "screaming dream", a recurring nightmare of him killing me, and I actually scream very loud in my sleep, and wake everyone up. I can't help it.

Do you ever look at your life now, and think that you might have been dead all this time? I would have missed out on marriage and children and grandchildren and my career, and finding out the Truth about the cult, and escaping the cult. I'm so happy now!

I hope you are happy. I would love to hear your story, but it might be painful for you to write, and risky for you to tell.

I did warn others, and I made sure my divorce was on public record as "extreme physical abuse", and I had witnesses. Evidently, those 2 other wives were conned out of being forewarned, and found out when he beat them, too, and his children.

You survived an attempted murder! You can stand up to some jerk of a troll on RFM--someone who's too much of a coward to reveal his real name. I'm wondering if you should warn us!

Mother Who Knows Wrote:
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> I also was almost murdered by my RM Mormon temple
> husband. He was a big bully, who pretended to be
> a sweet, gentle giant with a big smile and warm
> handshake. He was after my money and connections
> at BYU, and he conned my entire family. His GA
> family didn't warn us about his history of assault
> and battery. He had almost killed his little
> sister.
>
> I had to drop out of RFM, in the beginning, and
> then I changed my moniker a while back.
>
> People don't know the meaning of fear, until they
> are stalked by one of those monsters. My heart
> goes out to you!
>
> I hope you have gotten therapy, because almost
> being killed can cause PTSD. I have it, and
> probably always will, but cognitive therapy can
> help me control the flashbacks, and reason myself
> out of it.
>
> I have survived severe earthquakes, a hurricane, a
> crash-landing, falling and dangling off a cliff,
> breaking my arm skiing, being chased down the back
> alleyways of Venice alone in the dark, being
> tortured and bullied by my brother--I was always
> fearless!
>
> But whenever I walked into a Mormon temple, my
> intestines would go into knots, and I would feel
> nauseated. I still have "Mormon nausea." It's a
> physical as well as a psychological aversion. My
> thug ex has 3 temple wives, that he claims are
> still his property for eternity. The Mormon cult
> considers him to be a "member in good standing"
> and he's a big tithe-payer, is arrogant, and
> throws his weight around. Just like his Big 15
> relative. He gives speeches all over, and cries
> on cue.
>
> I still can't drive alone in a car with a man,
> unless he's a relative or long-time friend. Loud,
> low noises make me want to scream. I still have
> my "screaming dream", a recurring nightmare of him
> killing me, and I actually scream very loud in my
> sleep, and wake everyone up. I can't help it.
>
> Do you ever look at your life now, and think that
> you might have been dead all this time? I would
> have missed out on marriage and children and
> grandchildren and my career, and finding out the
> Truth about the cult, and escaping the cult. I'm
> so happy now!
>
> I hope you are happy. I would love to hear your
> story, but it might be painful for you to write,
> and risky for you to tell.
>
> I did warn others, and I made sure my divorce was
> on public record as "extreme physical abuse", and
> I had witnesses. Evidently, those 2 other wives
> were conned out of being forewarned, and found out
> when he beat them, too, and his children.
>
> You survived an attempted murder! You can stand
> up to some jerk of a troll on RFM--someone who's
> too much of a coward to reveal his real name. I'm
> wondering if you should warn us!

Attempted murder can definitely cause ptsd i can attest to that. It can also make you hate everyone which i am guilty of doing. The flashbacks do get less with constant therapy or they are not as effective in messing me up as before. I have a hard time seeing the good side of life and humanity.

Also a nevermo. And I find that POV can be helpful sometimes!

Welcome back! It’s awesome to have nevermo friends here!