Posted by:
exminion
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Date: July 15, 2018 03:19AM
I have less sympathy for your mom, than the other posters. I figure that your parents and their cult lied to you your entire life, and it's no big deal to lie right back at them for a while. You have a right to worship as you please. It's written in the Mormons' own Articles of Faith, and into the American Bill of Rights. You are an adult. Good grief, you already put in your time on a mission! You don't owe that cult anything.
Choose your battles. Your integrity is important to you, and your happiness. Your mother's feeling are important to you. Maybe the only way you can nurture all your values is to lie to your mother. You might be forced to lie to this person, because she will not accept The Truth about her cult. I like the suggestion that you tell her, "I'm taking some time off from church right now." It's vague. No set time frame. No reasons why. No excuses or apology. It's not personal.
The Mormon church is greedy, and hijacks people's lives and their relationships. Church has nothing to do with your mother-son relationship. Church has nothing to do with the love you have for each other. On the contrary, Nelson and his cult have a distain for unconditional love. Nelson says, "Unconditional love is anti-Christ. It's true that Mormonism has very low standards and morals, due to its focus on manipulating and lying to new recruits, and bullying money and time from its minions, in the name of "obedience" and "doing God's work." It's just a big business. Remind yourself of that, and that you are not sinning, and that the Mormons have no power from God. Your mother is like a hostage victim. You already seem to have empathy for her. By lying, you will be making her life easier. She will catch on slowly.
Actually, that you're taking time off is actually not a lie, at all. A real lie would be to fake it and tell your mother that the cult is true and that you intend on temple marriage to be your next step in your pre-programmed life.
If your personal Truth is that you still believe in Christ, you and your mother can have that in common, if not in words, but in deeds and lifestyle. You could still say the blessing on the food, pray, use Christian words, and be spiritual. If you still believe in family and love and marriage, talk about that. If you want to help others, volunteer doing something worthwhile, other than serving a big business corporation. Cheer your mother up, make her laugh, be happy. Don't be fake if you feel silly giving her too much praise. Be yourself.
Please don't rebel, as that is counter-productive, and even can be self-destructive. You know what I'm talking about.
Keep your own self-esteem on a high level. You have completed college! Congratulations! You are out and living on your own. You have discovered the truth, and are adapting to that change in your life. You care about your mother.
Find out who has been ratting you out, and have a talk with them. You could switch to a singles ward, where no one will report you to your parents. Don't discuss religion with anyone. Change the subject. Mormons are so arrogant, that they think their church is too important. There are so many other things to talk about, think about, to do together, no have in common. Put the cult in its place--it deserves NO PLACE in your relationships, at all.