Posted by:
Lowpriest
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Date: July 18, 2018 01:20PM
During my last recommend interview, I went through some word slicing and dicing to answer the first four questions.
1. Do you have faith in and testimony of...
2. Do you have a testimony of...
3. Do you have a testimony of...
4. Do you sustain...
In all truth, I did not believe at all. But what does it mean to have faith or a testimony? To "know" clearly could not mean to have actual proof. Most people who say they know mean that they choose to live their life as if it was true. To have faith seemed similar, in that I would hope for all the good things that I wanted to happen. Sustaining seemed like just being willing to go along and not rock the boat. So I minced words and moved on.
The other questions seemed easier to answer without mincing words, but looking back I realize how hard I had to work to deal with my cognitive dissonance.
Outside of interviews I just resort to avoidance.
What do I think of Nelson? It depends on who asks. What do I say at a family dinner when my TBM "daughter of the Utah pioneers" wife is excited about recent changes to ministering, scouting, or high priest quorum? I give a generally supportive looking nod and smile. When I am forced to comment, I make a general, non-committal, fairly obvious observation that looks for positive aspects of whatever idiotic topic is being discussed. Mince. Mince. Mince.
I have reached the point where I do not get to say anything real anymore.
On one hand, it helps me to maintain relationships. On the other hand, what good is it? What is the value of a relationship when you cannot say what you really think? I am so done.
I need to stop mincing words and then accept whatever happens next.