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Date: September 03, 2018 09:42PM
TBM DH has decided to drink iced herbal tea (ever cautious about the WoW, see) and is very earnestly trying to understand the RIGHT way to do it.
I grew up in a tea-drinking family. I have known how to prepare a good pot of tea for more than 60 of my 71 years.
For starters, DH was not certain of the difference in function between a teapot and a tea kettle. (You boil the water in the kettle. Then you pour the boiling water into a teapot, which has either tea bags or a tea-egg containing loose tea leaves in it. Then you let it steep until it is however strong you want it. Pour into tea cup, add milk or sugar if you wish, and there it is.)
I am usually pretty mellow. But right now, I practically have steam coming out of my ears!! DH kept brushing aside my explanations, trying to figure out for himself how to "do it right."
I have been doing it right for more than half a century. But will he listen to me? Oh, well - what do I know?
We very seldom fight, and we didn't fight over this; I would not let it escalate to that. But I feel put-down and trivialized by this, and am shocked that my decades of experience have been dismissed so casually. He isn't usually like that; he generally considers my viewpoint as valid.
I am very tired, and my chronically dry eyes have been hurting like bloody hell all weekend, so these factors may be compounding the shock and distress I feel right now.
Wouldn't YOU feel put-down if you had decades of experience at something, and your spouse, who knows little or nothing about it, discounted what you said??