Posted by:
exminion
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Date: November 11, 2018 07:13PM
Babyloncansuckit is right: "Mormons are trained to suppress their natural empathy. All feelings are conditional on whether or not you are supposed to have them. It’s pretty weird. I’m pretty sure Jesus wouldn’t let tribalism win out over unconditional love".
I had tender feelings, and cried in private. My abusive older brother liked to hunt and kill animals, including those in our own neighborhood. I tried to appeal to my parents, but they didn't care. He was a priesthood holder and a future missionary, and got away with murder. He loved to make me hear his stories about hurt animals and road-kill, etc, just to see me cry. I thought that if I didn't cry or respond, he would stop. His cruelty and abuse to me didn't stop, but the horror stories stopped. I left home two days after graduating high school, and never returned, but it was too late. I had PTSD. I felt I was not worthy of love, not worthy of even being protected from abuse.
Getting out of the Mormon cult--and getting my children out--and away from Mormon cruelty--was one of the best decisions I ever made.
My children can love. They are happily married, great parents, and they love their children. I was a TBM battered wife, and got divorced. After that, I would not date a Mormon man, or trust Mormons in business, either. My heart is empty in that way. I love my children and grandchildren unconditionally, and I cry when they get hurt or are sad, but I think it's OK for a grandma to be sympathetic. I love my trusted long-time friends, also, as per the 10-year rule.
I'm suspicious of testimony criers. I laugh at Henry Eyring. His crying serves his career.
Don't you know, notloggedin, that a good Mormon can cry on cue? It's yet another of their manipulative tools. Several BYU boys proposed marriage to me on about our 5th date, and all of them cried! I figured it was a way of getting what they wanted, and of making me feel obligated, and of proving their sincerity. I of course turned them down (they were chauvinistic fanatics in a polygamous cult), and within a few weeks, each got engaged to someone else. The one who cried the hardest, got engaged the next day! (I was used to dating someone for 2 to 10 years, and knowing their families.) It was as if it was TIME to get married--within a year after their mission, according to the prophet--and it didn't matter much who they married.
Too much crying, and inappropriate crying probably is insincere, IMO. Instead of demonstrating real "depth" or sensitivity, these people learned to do what your mother wasn't able to make you do. Good for you!