Posted by:
Amyjo
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Date: June 27, 2019 11:08AM
Whom we haven't seen since my mother's funeral in 2000.
He being two years older than I am we never called each other "aunt" or "nephew." We felt more like cousins, perhaps even distant siblings, given his mother was my half-sister albeit nearly a generation older from myself. She was closer in age to my mom than she was to me. My mom and her were more like sisters when my mom and dad were married. I only became closer to her as a sister toward the end of her life when we began to bond more before she became terminally ill.
So my nephew, his wife, my son and I meet at a diner near their home in Murray where they've lived the past nearly four decades of their married lives. He is retiring this week from his employer and moving back to Idaho where he grew up, with his wife. They were high school sweethearts when they met and have been together since and raised their family, now grown. One of their sons is keeping their house in Salt Lake. My nephew and his wife built their dream house to retire to up north where they'll spend their golden years.
Now to the subject of Mormonism and how it relates to my nephew. He was raised a Catholic. My half-sister was LDS. He and his siblings were raised Catholic out of respect for his father's wishes and their paternal grandparents. At some point, all of the siblings crossed over and joined the Mormon church along with their mom after their parents divorce. My nephew was the only one who stayed a Catholic. As a young adult he got swept up in some missionary lessons and was converted to Mormonism, but only briefly.
He told me when he went to a priesthood meeting he called some elder on some teaching he found ludicrous to which the teacher didn't have anything to say other than to "deal with it." My nephew said "enough of this," and called foul, and walked out the door after only THREE DAYS of BEING a MORMON, LOLOL. He never went back. Out of EIGHT siblings, he was the only one to remain Catholic without regret.
Nonetheless he has made his home and livelihood in Salt Lake City. He never had a problem living there in the heartland of the Mormon capitol. He did well in his career. He owned his home, raised his family, and now owns his second home in Idaho that he's retiring to.
When his mother was dying back in 2007 and went into hospice not one of her LDS children came calling. No one came to visit or to check on her, or to pay for her care or arrange for her care. Nothing at all. Not even a phone call. Just my nephew managing it all from where he lived out of duty and love for his mother. But when she died? The Mormon children were quick to address him and point out that she have a Mormon funeral with a Mormon burial, yada yada, etc.
Where were they when she was suffering with a long term disease and in hospice as she lay dying? Nowhere to be found.
He handled her funeral with the same love and duty he did as when she was living. She's buried next to her mother in her hometown back in Idaho. He honored her the way a loving son would, without the pomp and circumstance of a "Mormon" funeral. No one else even helped him pay for it.
One of his sisters is disabled (also very LDS,) but now widowed, and would be destitute were it not for my nephew. He has made sure that she is taken care of financially, he even pre-paid for her funeral so that she'll be buried next to her husband when she passes away there in Salt Lake City when she dies, and has made sure she has someone left in charge to manage her finances now that he's leaving Utah. He has done all this on his own without any assistance from any of his Mormon siblings.
Despite all that, and his extreme goodness and kindness, he tells me that his siblings SHUN HIM because he is NOT a MORMON. Since he isn't one of their KIND, they do not accept him as GOOD enough to be with THEM in the CELESTIAL KINGDOM.
I'm thinking to myself it's just the REVERSE. Based on his love and devotion to his family, as he has been there for his (Mormon) mother and (Mormon) sister when not one of his other siblings has been, which is the better of the siblings?
He has the HEART of GOLD. If there is a heaven and if there is a God, and if there is a JUDGMENT, then he will REAP as he has SOWN. And so will they.
I feel blessed to be related to someone as GOOD and KIND as my nephew, and that my son was able to bond with him last week that wasn't over a funeral. Last time they met they were both pallbearers at my mom's funeral. My nephews sons are the same age as my son is. Nephew is the type of man any parent would be proud to own. And an aunt proud to call 'nephew.'
It saddened me to learn of the shunning by his Mormon siblings. Just because he chose to remain a Catholic as that was how he was raised and believes that over Mormonism.
Although he isn't currently practicing that either since one of his sons served in Afghanistan. They got out of going on Sundays because their son would contact them on Sundays when it was his only day to visit them by Skype. And they fell out of practice because of that. (Not belief, mind you, just practice.) They are both wonderful people. It was the first time I got to meet his wife, and I can see why he fell in love with her. They are perfect for each other. :)