Posted by:
exminion
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Date: August 15, 2019 11:19PM
Don't let your brother or your mother deflect any of your brother's mistakes onto you! The woman being Mexican has nothing to do with anything, except that citizenship for herself and her daughters would be a huge incentive for her to get married. This is very common, with men and women alike, and in all religions. I have a friend who's widowed father has had two internet-courtship (Mormon) marriages with 2 Puerto Rican women, and both times were scams. One of the wives already had a husband in Puerto Rico. I know a few men who have gotten mixed up with Russian women, and after they get their free passage to America with their kids, and they get citizenship, and a job, and have their children's teeth fixed and everyone's medical problems cured, they dump the sugar-daddy. It's a matter of survival to some of them. Yes, these Russian women had boyfriends back in Russia, whom they managed to bring into the country. One man thought he was helping the woman's brother, but he turned out to be her husband.
The biggest red flag of all, is the rushing of the marriage. Con-artists move quickly. Con-artists play on the weaknesses of their victims--your brother's weaknesses are sex, religion, and being on the rebound.
Too many scams! Too many red flags! Your brother knows this, and that's why he didn't tell you anything. I'll bet his kids are upset about this, too!
I doubt if he would listen to anything you have to say, or accept any help you could give him. For example, he could put his assets in your mother's name, or your name, to keep them safe, for a while. You could encourage your brother to make out a Will, making sure his estate goes to his children. My ex-husband married a bar-fly, and she manipulated him into leaving everything to her. The same thing happened to my widower TBM neighbor across the street, who knew his new Mormon wife only a month, before she moved into his house, and they got married after only 3 months. She convinced him to dis-own and dis-inherit his children, because they had left the church, and the still-Mormon daughter was a career woman, instead of a SAHM. These manipulators think of reasons.
When someone is hiding something from you, you know it's something bad. My best girl friend got jilted the day before her wedding, and she moved away, to avoid avoid the humiliation and pain. She met someone and married him 4 months later, and didn't tell any of us friends anything about him. When he threw her down the stairs and broke her arm, she told us that he had been married before, and had thrown his wife off of a balcony, and she had divorced him for physical cruelty. We friends said, "Why didn't you tell us about his past?"
She said, "You would all have told me not to marry him."
Now that's my definition of an "idiot."
But--also my friend's TBM parents and your mother and my own TBM parents were idiots, when all they cared about was that the new spouse was a Mormon.