Posted by:
praydude
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Date: November 15, 2019 02:36AM
Ok, so when I first wrote this post it was way, waaaaay back in August (2019). To recap, my older brother who was married for 40+ years to an apparently crazy woman finally divorced her and she took him to the cleaners. His alimony payments to her are more than I make at my full-time job. I have also just found out that the amount of money my brother is currently living on (after all the bills are paid) is less than $1k /month.
After his divorce was finalized, my brother briefly dated a TBM Mexican citizen and after a whirlwind romance lasting 3 weeks they got married. She has 3 daughters and does not speak any English. My brother does not really speak Spanish so they were using Google translate to work out their conversations. I really feel that I'm not racist. I was concerned that he was rushing into this thing without really understanding who he was marrying. He barely knew her and then he prayed about it and decided to marry her.
It was such a fast courtship that my brother kept the marriage a secret from my ex-mormon younger brother and me.
Ok, my brother got married in the middle of August and I just found out today that his new wife left him two days ago. Big shock.
Actually I am a little shocked that it ended so quickly. I mean...less than 3 months into their marriage and she called it quits? My brother is seeing a lawyer this time to expedite the dissolution of his second marriage. So that’s good.
My TBM mother always took his side on this quick marriage thing and she was even planning to fly down there to visit the newlyweds for the holidays this year.
Now my TBM mother has decided to move in with her newly-singled son because even though I visit her every week, she has decided that my TBM brother will treat her better. I suppose that she saw a new opportunity and is taking it.
I’m not angry with any of them. I am a little sad because I did hope that living in my town would help crack my 78-year-old mother out of the cult. I wanted to see them both learn from their mistakes and move forward with honesty. Such ideals seem to elude them. I am probably a bit mis-guided in thinking that I could help promote the change in my family that I want them to have. Oh well....at least now my nev-mo wife will not have any reason to gripe about the time I spend with my mom. (It was my mom’s letter-writing-campaign-to-the-court that ended any chance of a relationship with my wife...so I get why my wife doesn’t want my mom around).
I’m not sure how I feel. Numb mostly.