I post a story on Facebook that happened because of covid because my work is considered non essential and there is nothing to do, so I'll talk to anyone that comes into my eyesight because everyone is BORED and there is literally nothing to do except wait for Employment insurance.
So I post a cutsie story on Facebook.
I'm sitting on my patio and it's such that neighbors walk by once in a while. A super cute girl walking her dog walks by, and we strike up a convo. I'm middle-aged divorced guy and she's a 20 something dental assistant that only works a couple of days for emergencies because of covid. We talk for about 45 mins.
My tbm daughter posts eww.
Sigh. I thought it a funny story.
My oldest son, the bishop now, won't give up inviting me to Mormon sh#t no matter how my times I tell him how completly not interested I am.
I finally found out how to stop all those Mormon fast for covid posts that filled up my Facebook page.
It's like walking on eggshells around tbms. You have to be careful about talking about what movies you watch because there could be swearing in it. Careful about what you post. I no longer hide the fact that I drink coffee or have the occasional beer. I just say that Jesus made, provided, and drank wine.
I get a lot of disapproval and judgment too. It’s a huge dampener on things. I just want to be free to be myself and be loved. I know how much it hurst when it’s your own children too. It has helped me to have supportive friends who think I’m really great; it puts things in perspective. Also in my career I get so much nice feedback and it’s a reminder that I’m not the problem. Your family are missing out on you so in a way I feel more sorry for them. I shared something with swearing in on Facebook today. I had to go to the trouble of editing the privacy so family, Mormons and religious people didn’t see it. In a way I wish I’d never added them. I went through a phase of posting whatever the hell I liked thinking if people got offended then maybe good riddance or not my problem. But the backlash does hurt. It’s a reminder to protect myself.
You can drop people from Facebook. Go to your friends list. I can't remember if you hover over their photo or right-click. It's one of those. *poof* Gone! I had to drop a former colleague who only wanted to shill MLM junk to me.
They are missing out on you. They don't have all the time in the world to spend with their dad. I know without a doubt that when I'm gone, my daughter will regret the time she didn't spend with me and how she treated me.
I worked with middle-aged men when I was 20 until 28. I guess it would be eww to some. Not to me. They were great guys and if any of the mormon ones had found themselves single, I would have married them even if they were 45, those ones I knew. I still know them. They are in their 80s and I'm 62. Some are still alive. AND now, I would have married the nonmormon 40 year old who did ask me to marry him back then when his wife left him. He begged me to marry him. Stupid me. He is one of my best friends I've ever had. I knew his wife, too, and when she decided she wanted him back, I talked him into going back to her. She asked me to.
I wish I had been smart enough in my 20s to marry someone in their 40s.
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I'm 56 & my hubby is 75. We've been married over 25 years. There are good things to the age gap and some not so great things. But, I wouldn't change it for the world.
"Judge not, lest ye be judged" is part of the Bible Mormons think was translated incorrectly, because life in the church teaches them to judge everyone because everyone is judged. They're all preparing for the big Judgment Day, right?
Does your daughter know about the age gap between Joseph Smith and some of his young "wives"?
My dad was almost 17 years older than my mom. He was an engineer/factory manager at the time, and he was trying to hire her. He was attracted to her right away, but thought to himself, "Nah, too young." I guess not! :)
I would just go ahead and post what you want. If people don't want to read your posts, the situation will sort itself out. You can always get rid of responses that you don't like.
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It does. They seem to always find ways to criticize but one of the best ways to get them to stop bugging you as much and maybe even respect you or if not that at least become less annoying is to have new hobbies and friends, which can be easier to do by become a specialist in something. A wine connosseur (sp?), a literature film or sports buff, woodworking, fishing, tennis....So many things to try or learn out there. Who knows, one of those could even lead to a new career or temporary side hustle or at least some new contacts.
If you have new and fascinating things to post, they might seem a little less frustrating and you can ignore the pettiness and concentrate on your new life!
I agree with Summer and cl2; an age gap isn’t gross and also think it’s not nice to imply that it is. All my ex boyfriends have been way older than me, some women really like that. It’s also really hypocritical for Mormons to criticise about anything, but especially supposedly ‘yucky’ things; what about all the sex they’re going to have in heaven with multiple wives? What about their obsession with sex, masturbation, homosexuality and porn? What about all the gaslighting and manipulation? They’re so judgmental that they’re actually obsessed about stuff and thats disgusting.
==I know that religion acts as a wall between people. It prevents people from being friends. At times, it turns people into enemies and killers.
Anyway, I'm sure that your kids are fine people and so are you. May I suggest that you pretend to be a mormon for a couple of years. Lie to them. Tell them that you studied it in depth and that you were wrong and mormonism is true. Spend time with 1 or 2 of them. Go to the park, go to restaurants, go shopping, whatever you want to do to get to know each other.
Then, after a few years, you could tell them that you lied to them because you wanted to be part of their lives. Tell them that you are against the separation wall.
That's one method to make them understand that you care about them. Make sure you tell them that. Maybe that will wake them up from the Matrix world that they live in.
~~~~~I'm an athiest. A never mo. I'm not a psychologist expert. I also try not to build walls between me and people unless that person is morally bankrupt.