Posted by:
Lot's Wife
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Date: October 10, 2020 12:56AM
I have often mused on the role the church played in rendering it impossible for people to be in the church but not of the church. About a decade ago the Q15 tightened down on liberals and NOM believers through aggressive speeches and by excommunicating people like John Dehlin and Kate Kelly. The effect has been to create a binary choice: you are in or you are out. And when confronted with those two options, a very large percentage of people choose out--which is one reason that the DAMU has lost some of its vitality.
With that in mind I am lifting, not with permission but hopefully with forgiveness, a post from Not Buying It on New Order Mormen. I think s/he makes the point well.
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Once upon a time, 15 or so years ago when I first started visiting NOM, it was a very different place. We've had discussions before about how it once really was for those seeking a "middle way", and as time passed fewer and fewer of us were really about trying to be an active part of the Church while not believing in it, and more and more of us were those who wanted desperately to escape but were tied to it to some extent by family ties and mostly needed someplace to vent. I once thought some of the harsh rhetoric from some of us drove the true "middle way" posters away, and I still think that probably did change things.
But you know, I saw a quote today that made me realize that isn't the whole story. This quote from Elder Bednar helped me realize that while because of harsh opinions posted on the site NOM became less "middle way friendly" over time, the Church also made the "middle way" untenable. I mean, the "middle way" was probably never really tenable to begin with, it was a balancing act few people could ever truly pull off, but the Church actively made it less and less comfortable for anyone who wanted to keep participating in the Church if they didn't believe all of the truth claims.