I recently was in SLC and had dinner with my ex TBM wife. Out of the blue she says she is sorry for raising the kids LDS and pushing the religion on me while we were married. I let her off easy mainly because I knew she was Mormon when I married her and should have known better. I'm glad we get along but I'm sorry we are divorced.

Did she say what caused her change of heart? And how are your children doing?

She never said what changed her mind and I never asked. The children are fine as I got custody of them during the divorce.

That's a generous apology. Most people wouldn't ever consider offering such a mea culpa.

When a person makes a mistake (here, a big one: divorce), it would be natural to find a good excuse or other party to blame. In this case, LDS. If she lost not only her marriage, but also custody of the children, that's a biggie. She may be suffering major regrets.

Not only do we not know the parties, but the OP has provided minimal information. But I wouldn't be surprised if by subtracting LDS from the equation, she's looking for a way to "factor" herself back in.

Edit: Knowing her thoughts & feelings about LDS would tell lots and is worth exploring. Two speculations: she is one of many who has learned the truth about The One True Church, and is brave enough to face that. And/or, she learned that a divorcee's prospects for an eternal companion are dim. OP: I sense yours was not a temple marriage?



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Not a temple marriage but was pressured for 15 years. Custody was not based on her being a bad parent, children wanted to live with me.

Hey, so she wasn't a bad parent... You were just a better parent, in the kids' eyes.

Does anyone else's opinion count?