Posted by:
madeguy
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Date: January 18, 2022 01:23PM
All religions have one central message, not usually stated, but resembling the following: ‘You need to improve, and you need us to help you. You’re no good just as you are. Do whatever we tell you and you’ll have great reward, disobey us and you will spend eternity in hell.’ This seems to me to be the opposite of what church is supposed to be. Shouldn't it be a place to learn love, forgiveness, and tolerance? If churches were really tolerant, they would love and accept all their members just as they are. If churches really understood love, they would love even those whose beliefs and lifestyles were way different.
There is something called unconditional love. This is supposed to be better than ‘regular’ love. Unconditional love is accepting of everything. Jesus, whether historical or not, was a model of unconditional love: he turned water into wine to help his Mom, spoke with a Samaritan woman, healed anyone who asked, and sat down to eat with ‘sinners’. Unconditional love is a somewhat rare quality.
What I’ve realized is this: unconditional love is the only love. There is no other kind. Anything professed as ‘love’, but with conditions is not love. It is a contract, offered by someone who wants you as part of their personal support system. Fail to provide what they want, and their ’love’ is withdrawn.
So, if it’s not unconditional love, it’s not love at all. The purpose of religion should be to help people find unconditional love. If they’re going to stand in judgment of you because they see you as a sinner, non-believer or non-conformist, what do you need them for? You can get that anywhere.
So, I look back on all my years of Mormonism, and I ask, has all of that striving improved me? When I sit quietly by myself in a dark room, eyes closed, I sense I’m exactly the same person I’ve always been. The same awareness of the world around me has never changed. Only my opinion of the world changes. I’m no better or worse. Just letting go the belief that I need to improve or repent has been totally liberating.
I exist, I’m aware that I exist, just being exactly as I AM.
If I believe in a God, it is one who accepts me just as I am, just as the sun shines on everyone the same, no questions asked.