Posted by:
omreven
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Date: April 13, 2011 01:00PM
This is one of the areas I don't understand. The need to make a fuss about it, send out emails or letters. I'm a nevermo, never joined, never really talked to anyone besides the Jackmo spouse about it (uber TBM family), which I'm sugar-coating --the whole Mo/noMo thing was a nightmare, but I never thought at any point I needed to get all the extended fam involved, which they tend to do anyway, but still, it just wasn't a place I was planning to go. Why do you have to make it all "official" and send an email and all that? It seems your wife is okay with all this, so why open up that can o' worms? It'll come out through conversation eventually, I guess. The mo/exmo thing is hard to understand sometimes. The letter writing thing always feels like a "why is it anyone else's business" sort of thing. I dunno. I'm not speaking with experience here, but is it truly necessary to send correspondance? Maybe let nature take its course, so to speak?
I grew up in a world where religion was personal, even to the point you didn't ask a person's religion or concern yourself over their church going practices or which flavor of God they subscribed to...if at all. Even if you didn't agree with their beleifs, it was none of your business. It was considered rude...same for politics. You only discussed these things with people you knew well. I was floored at the number of people who inquired about my religiousity within the Mormon sphere when I was only meeting them for the first time, but despite this lack of boundaries, it was just not a topic I ever discussed or debated about with the family. The spouse is different, and certainly there will be some overlap with friends and family, but it's really just about me, my spouse, my kids, my family, and considering the drama that can come from this, is it worth it? Can you just let nature take it's course here? Do you need to get all official with phone calls or emails, or just let it come out in the course of communication, answer questions accordingly?