Posted by:
AlmostFell
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Date: April 15, 2011 10:35AM
I almost fell. At the time, I was a member of a mainstream Christian church, but very unhappy where I was. My job was also a huge source of stress. A friend, who was a recent convert (and still very gung-ho as far as I can tell), invited me to General Conference and to church. I accepted his invitation and later agreed to start meeting with the missionaries. I found that everyone I met at the LDS church were all very nice people and they welcomed me. The church presented itself as pretty much mainstream and, even knowing everything I had been taught about Mormonism, I thought it sounded Christian. I almost cried watching the Joseph Smith movie, and I knew it was an extremely whitewashed tale. So, what stopped me?
The ward I attended met in the afternoon, so I could still either attend my church or visit another church in my denomination every Sunday. Mormonism could not get a complete hold on me because I had not abandoned my Christian beliefs.
I tend to be a rigid rule follower, but if the rules seem arbitrary, I will rebel. I saw all sorts of arbitrary rules in the Mormon church. It was bad enough that the church told you when and where to attend instead of giving you the choice to attend the ward you felt most comfortable with, but to have the church dictate your underwear?! As far as I’m concerned, it’s none of the church’s business what I wear under my clothes.
The music could best be described as funeral dirges. I totally understand wanting to show reverence, but what’s wrong with upbeat praise songs? If hanging out with Jesus was as much of a downer as the music in a sacrament meeting, He would have had no followers.
I do not believe that the Bible prohibits paid clergy (I won’t get into the arguments now), but I don’t have a problem with the church having members of the congregation speak/give the message on Sunday mornings. However, why not allow the members who are speaking talk about a topic that means something to them instead of assigning the topics? I’ve been involved in Christian groups where members were the speakers and they always picked their own topics and spoke about something that was on their hearts.
The word of wisdom makes no logical sense. Why are coffee and tea banned? It can’t be because of temperature because the iced versions of these drinks are not ok, but hot chocolate is. It can’t be because of caffeine, because soda is ok. There’s no logical explanation.
Murder is unforgiveable. Really? No, I haven’t killed anyone, so this doesn’t apply to me. I tried to argue this with my friend, but he claimed to be too tired to talk about it (he brought it up) and ended the conversation. If murder is unforgiveable, Moses, David (the man after God’s own heart), and quite likely Paul will be excluded from Heaven.
Speaking of Paul, this giant of the faith would likely be excluded from the Celestial Kingdom as he wasn’t married. (There is an argument that since he was a Pharisee and they were generally married, he may have been a widower. If that’s the case, I’ll concede he can get into the CK.) Likewise, as a single, I can’t get into the CK. (Oh, yeah, I don’t want kids either.) For some reason, I don’t think God uses marital status to determine whether someone gets into Heaven. If He did, Christ could not have come back as He never married.
Other churches ask that their members tithe to support the church and its operations. The money contributed stays with the local church and is spent according to the member-approved budget. The church holds regular meetings to account for the income and outflow of funds. Member contributions are recorded solely to provide them with an annual giving statement for tax purposes. The two mainstream churches I’ve been involved with also earmark 10% of their budgets for outreach/missions. It’s like the church’s tithe.
Pushing temple marriages and then excluding anyone not worthy from attending seems more like a family-destroying action than a family-building one. It also seems like emotional blackmail to get people to convert to Mormonism if they want to see their loved one get married.
The temple is “sacred, not secret”? I think it’s just secret. By comparison, Catholics believe that communion is so sacred that non-Catholics cannot receive it during mass. However, non-Catholics can still come forward and receive a blessing from the priest during this part of mass, so they aren’t left out. There’s nothing secret about this part of mass.
The missionaries didn’t want me to research the church on my own. That was a huge red flag. Then I found this site and others.
These are just some of the reasons I didn’t convert. I did ultimately leave my original church for the other one in my denomination. The messages and the music are upbeat and the pastor understands that I’m very burned out right now and asks nothing more of me than that I show up on Sunday mornings. I will get more involved as I feel ready, and he isn’t asking for anything more.