blindguy Wrote:
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> ...is that many people who find themselves in this
> situation actually support those who torment them.
> It's very much like some of the things I've read
> about where hostages learn to identify with the
> behaviors and goals of their kidnappers (anybody
> remember Patty Hearst?) I guess some people prefer
> the devil they know than the devil they don't...
There is plenty about it that is tragic, blindguy, isn't there. I know what you mean about people going along with it when outsiders would think they'd rebel. But so much is so deeply ingrained from birth and difficult to overcome in many cases so I think that explains at least one reason why so many seem to just accept their lot and never try to leave for a different, more independent life.
My father who was old-school English instilled in at least the first two of his five kids (I was the second) the highly-prized in some quarters principle of unquestioning obedience (or he definitely tried hard to do so). Certainly as young kids my sister and I were exceptionally obedient. I think that is part of the reason why as a mid teen when I met the JWs I readily fell in with one of their top 10 main principles of unquestioning obedience. (Another of their top 10 is secrecy but that's another story). The above analysis about obedience doesn't always hold because my older sister has always been a complete rebel, in my opinion. Of course, she completely disagrees. Strangely, as sibs do, we argue over which one of us was more or less this or that. She thinks she was docile and I was a rebel. You have to laugh because I think it was definitely the other way around.
I think though that that expectation of obedience was so familiar to me that it didn't seem off when the JWs preached it as a favourite principle and that helped them entice me in. Fortunately for me, mostly due to having had experience outside their cloistered group I believe, I did at least have something to compare and contrast them to. Even though I didn't question it soon enough but instead formally joined too precipitously, because hey, Armageddon was right around the corner so no time to lose - the same story they push today, years later, and yet the world still turns. Fortunately though I did get out and never regretted that backtrack for a single second.
My point is that I had a point of reference outside the closed group, both from my upbringing in a (relatively) normal family (!) and JWs born into the group don't have that.
With the fundamentalist Mormons, most unfortunately, they are literally physically isolated altogether on a property separate from the rest of the population of their province, state, country and they go to the cult's school as well. No chance for them to hear or read or see much, if anything, about the outside world.
I am still amazed every time a member gets out of the fundamentalist group. It demonstrates a great deal of courage and resolve and grit and trust. Trust, I imagine, that the outside world may not be as bad as their dishonest self-serving leaders portray it to be.
I think they support the leaders because it's demanded of them and perhaps because at least in part and/or for a good period of time as they grow and hopefully learn, they believe it. Also, because as long as they are in isolation and under observation they have little to no choice.
I think about the government authorities here in British Columbia who know, at least in part, what is going on in Bountiful and other polygamous Mormon communes. Not only do they not "rescue" the kids, they actually support the community and seem to turn a blind eye to a lot of questionable practices. They also give money (lots of it) to the community for their school. I have no clue if they check to see what the curriculum is or whether the standard Canadian curriculum is being followed (I'm going to guess it is not). Still, they get millions of dollars every year to run their schools.
Also, even though at least the government took Winston Blackmore and some of the other leaders to court for various alleged offences, he was acquitted. The smug smile on their faces as they walked away from justice would make your stomach turn.
When I think of the courage and guts and resolve and initiative I've seen, heard, read about some of the women there, including Debbie, who are trying to change things for the better for the other women and the children in the community it's inspiring and heartbreaking all at once. It's most unfortunate that there doesn't seem to be a mechanism for a wholesale "rescue" of anyone who may want to leave (they're in an isolated spot and the women, obviously, have no funds of their own). Somehow the government continues to allow the status quo to continue. If there wasn't the complicating factor of a religion being involved I wonder if they could act more swiftly and decisively.
It seemed like such an amazing turn of events when Blackmore and Oler, another leader, were charged with some criminal offences but, although convicted, they were allowed to return home (details below).
It's so too bad that so many of the girls and women never get to see the outside of their commune or have much of a chance to choose their own life's path for themselves.
Here's an article about the court case brought against Blackmore and Oler, two of the leaders. (Blackmore was Debbie's stepson, in the commune's convoluted relationship pattern due to polygamy and arranged marriage).
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/polygamy-bc-blackmore-oler-bountiful-sentencing-1.4722332Excerpts:
“A B.C. Supreme Court judge has sentenced Winston Blackmore to six months of house arrest and James Oler to three months of house arrest for practising polygamy.
“Justice Sherry Anne Donegan handed down the sentence in Cranbrook Tuesday morning.
“Blackmore will be under house arrest in his Bountiful area home, with allowances to go to work and attend to medical emergencies, while Oler will be able to serve his time where he works and lives in Alberta.
“Both sentences will be followed by 12 months probation.
“Blackmore has also been ordered to perform 150 hours of community work service, while Oler must do 75 hours.
“As she handed down her decision, the judge noted both men were hard working, respected members of their communities with no prior convictions.
“These convictions are a first for polygamy in Canada in more than a century.
“Special prosecutor Peter Wilson recommended three to six months in jail for Blackmore, 60, and one to three months for James Oler, 53.
“The two former religious leaders were convicted last July of practising plural or "celestial" marriage in the community of Bountiful, B.C.
“Oler did not have legal representation in court, but a lawyer who acted as a so-called friend of the court to ensure a fair trial said Oler is hard working and imprisonment may not be necessary to deter and denounce polygamy.
“There are only two other convictions for polygamy in Canadian history, but because those cases took place in 1899 and 1906, Wilson told the judge they didn't set a precedent in determining sentences for the men.”
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Being taken to court for "practicing polygamy" and getting a slap on the wrist is highly discouraging. For one, it ignores the real and harmful effects of their way of life and what is essentially bondage of the females.
Re the "friend of the court" lawyer who said that Oler is hardworking, what a joke. A person can be a total criminal and be hardworking but does that absolve them of their guilt for breaking the law?
It certainly seems that the court didn't consider polygamy to be much of a transgression. Obviously, the judge had no clue about the reality of the lives of the females there or the non-leader males even.
It also seems that in spite of all the harms of polygamy, including at least statutory rape (Debbie was only 15 when she was "married" to a much older man) the court didn't seem to grasp that aspect of it.
Only two convictions for polygamy in Canadian history and the last one being in 1906? Oh well, that's all right then. NOT!!
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 03/10/2024 10:05PM by Nightingale.