http://www.ldsphonecounseling.com/blog/?p=365

How does this:
"Over the first few years of our marriage I would either find something on the computer or he would feel guilty and confess on his own to me when he had “slipped up”. He could go months without viewing it and then go back. I got to the point where I was sick of asking him how he was doing on it since I was always scared to hear a negative answer and I found he would just lie until he was ready to confess anyways. Other than this issue, he is a perfect husband."
Lead to this:
"I have worked with many couples that are battling it, don’t mistake, it is addictive and will lead him to objectify you and fantasize about other women; he needs help."
?????
So how is this "objectification" going to happen? What person hasn't entertained a sexual fantasy that has NOT led them to "fantasize about other women"? What person? Oh, yeah LDS People are attempting perfection for that Celestial Sex they get in the afterlife - got it!

Porn Addict or Selfish Bastard? Life Is More Complicated Than That
May 6, 2011 by Dr. Marty Klein

I’m seeing an epidemic of “porn addiction” in my office. Not of porn addiction, but of “sex addiction.”

Here’s how it looks: Wife/girlfriend somehow assumes that husband/boyfriend does not watch porn (guess that’s what she means by “he’s one in a million”). One day, his porn watching comes to her attention (he leaves something on the screen, she searches his website history, he gets an email or bill from some friendly porn site, etc.).

She freaks.

She decides what his porn watching “means”:
* He doesn’t care for her
* He’s been faking sexual desire or enjoyment
* He’d rather be with other women (or men, or kangaroos, or whatever he’s been watching)
* He’s a pervert
* He’s unfaithful

Needless to say, these interpretations make his porn watching her business. And frequently, she decides she has the moral high ground from which to dictate what his problem is, the fact that he must get it fixed, and what the treatment needs to be. With slight variations, a new version of this case walks into my office almost every week.

In a different world, Mr. Porn Consumer would turn to Outraged Wife/Girlfriend and say “Wow, I can see that you’re really upset about what I’m watching. Let’s talk about it and see what we can do.” In the real world, however, most men are so loaded down with shame about their sexuality that the second their partner attacks them for watching porn, they collapse and allow their partner to seize control of the relationship.

continue about a quarter down the page at

http://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/

"Other than this issue, he is a perfect husband."

Well, if he won't get the "help" he "needs" and he won't quit his occasional dalliances. She better "get a revelation" from "The Lord" that she needs to upgrade to the "perfect" husband.

What I don't understand is if porn is so bad how did this guy get made a High Priest? Did he lie to his wife if she asked him about speaking to the bishop?

Strip clubs = affairs and prostitutes?

Just go have an affair or hire a prostitute I guess before going out with the boys to a gentleman's club!

Check out this comment:

LDS Wife blogger on January 20, 2010 at 4:01 pm

We too are dealing with this. I’d highly recommend tackling this on full force before it gets to affairs/strip clubs/prostitutes. The church has an addiction recovery program for the man and a women support group. Go to http://www.lds.org/combatingpornography for the addiction recovery manual and go to this link http://www.providentliving.org/content/list/0,11664,4177-1,00.html for meetings that you can attend.

Love,
Lds wife

Title: How Can I Help My Husband Stop Porn Habit?

"He could go months without viewing it and then go back."

Answer: "Yes, he does need clinical help."

So, once every few months is a "habit"? Where, but in bizarro world?

scarecrowfromoz Wrote:
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>Where, but in bizarro world?

...that made men completely faithful to their wives, would it be breaking the Word of Wisdom to take it? Or would it be considered a afterlife saver for Mormon Priesthood holders?

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/23/2011 12:03PM by wine country girl.