Posted by:
elee
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Date: May 23, 2011 03:55PM
I am a very casual dresser, for the most part, and have been since I started dressing myself.
When I was a kid, the standard uniform was jeans, t-shirt and a pair of well-worn Chuck Taylors. That's still my preference, but these days, I tend to buy good shoes. Not designer stilettos, but shoes that support my arches and give my ankles some support. I have a serious passion (problem?) for stacked-heel boots in various heights.
I keep my hair short in the "bed-head" mode because I'd rather sleep than do my hair. I wear minimal make-up, just mascara and eye-liner, for the most part.
When DH and I want to dress up and go out on the town, we usually pull out all the stops and get dressed to the nines. But we don't do that very often and neither of us would want to dress that way every single day.
As a young, semi-active Mormon teen, there was a lot of pressure put on me to look more "feminine". But of course, the LDS notion of "feminine" assumes there is only one way to look, act or be feminine. I am of the opinion that the number of ways to be feminine is equivalent to the number of females on the planet.
I liked what Gabriella said in the original thread, that it isn't the clothing that makes a frump, but rather the indoctrination that as a woman, you must sacrifice all personal time, hobbies and goals for anyone (and everyone) else. The "frumpy" dress are just a natural by-product of that.
If you add in the social pressure to conform in Mormon culture, it's no wonder that so many Mormon women look the same.
If you see yourself as frumpy, you will likely carry yourself in a frumpy way. If you don't consider yourself frumpy, you likely won't.
I gave up giving a shit about what others, particularly strangers, think of me a looooooooooooooong time ago.