Date: July 22, 2017 11:34PM
husband says: "I use isometrics ten or fifteen minutes at a time to use up excess energy. Deep breathing at home or on the drive. walk, get outside during your break and walk, that's very relaxing. read something that's way away from your every day life. take a bath, incredibly relaxing. pet a cat. cook. cook something, wash your dishes, get your hands wet. Do a repetitive task. do a creative endeavor, for me its woodworking. you can watch a movie that's relaxing unless its an action-action-action, if its an action-action-action that gets your heart rate up. well if I was outside near a stream or river, I'd listen to the water, the tinkle of the water, the rush of the rapids. If I was out in nature I'd listen to the wind come rushing up the hillside. Listen to beautiful music. Listen to your love breath that's very relaxing to me. getting a scalp massage or back massage or a foot rub are incredibly relaxing. Listening to the dessert wind blow, the chittering of tiny sand grains against the window (the camping rig) on a beautiful cool night. Those are all things I do, not sure if I can always hear the sand, but sometimes I can."
for me, right now, I Draw, do a lot of drawing, sketch. Take digital photos, sketch some pictures. knit. Crochet. Braid, cut, pull back, put up, straighten my hair. music old stereo kitchen or carry my blue tooth cheapy single Bose portable speaker to play in husband's 12 year old pick up truck. moonlight rides drives through cattle ranch country in foothills curved roads winter, spring, summer fall. nails filing, manicure painting my nails. painting entire walls. designing, automatically applying memorized patterns or shapes to fabric & leather sewing messenger bags, totes, purses, purse liners, measure arrange rows of elastic sew in pencil graphite holder onto canvas or leather bag liners.
know where things are, in at least one part of my life, on a cupboard or drawers or shelf & always be able to put tools or implements or dishes back again & not wonder where they go, & know where to reach- even without my glasses on, or when the lights are dim. So I can cook and clean in a relaxed way. Dishes in round low edged bowls, glass and porcelain in one side, metal the other, knives on a counter never in the sink so its relaxing and safe, nothing breaks. A handled wide shallow wash pan ( like my grandma floated tomatoes in before she canned) to sort, put aside, pick back up, carry safely- very very relaxing. Hand tools that fit my smaller hands instead of trying to use my husbands, round nose plyers and needle nose plyers to reach and hold metal rings while setting handles and straps on purses or pulls onto zippers, or making key chains so I'm no longer splitting my nails I'm using tools that fit comfortably instead.
& I like to write, badly unstructured partial rhythms with end rhymes. in narrative paragraphs write on topics, rather than lds journal. Choosing to relax, find a topic that calls the heart of mind, Write to describe or to appreciate or to plan personally which is far more relaxing than emotionally intense cathartic works.
Finding a series of routine relaxing 'being' 'participating' non negotiated pre planned flow flowing routine* (*tasks hobbies projects meals to sit at meals to serve cup to sip, shared planned togetherness with someone) seems to hold safety.