Posted by:
Strykary
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Date: May 25, 2011 01:21AM
"but how do i get through two more years of seminary, girls camp, church, mutual, etc when i feel its all wrong? just suck it up i guess... thats what ive been doing for only a few months and i feel like im going crazy pretending it all."
Unfortunately, for your survival, you're going to have to fake it to make it, JessicaLily. Quoth The Raven gave you some sound advice about how to survive two years of lying about your beliefs. Having just left a situation similar to your own, here's a few things to help get you through. Granted, I don't live in Utah so things may be more difficult for you.
Don't think about the fact that you're deceiving your family and peers. I know it's tough, but put it out of your mind completely. Think of something else that interests you, say a project you're working on or a hobby. Music, video games, movies, books, studying, homework, whatever you can do to take your focus off of your situation. There are times when you need to focus on your situation such as at church, seminary, mutual nights and family home evening. Other times try your best not to focus on your situation, that will help get you through the next two years.
Remember you aren't a bad person for lying about your beliefs. Your environment forces you to lie, you must lie to survive. Mormonism is a cult and in order for you to exit safely you must to play along to get along.
Do NOT rock the boat. My parents threatened me with one of those reformation camps in Utah when I told them of my unbelief. You do not want to get sent to one of those. I don't know if your parents would do such a thing, but it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. Sadly, you're going to have to conform. I know that's an extremely difficult thing to do, but you're doing it for self-preservation, for survival.
If you don't have a job, get one ASAP. Start saving your money because when the time comes you may need it to survive after you leave Mormonism. A parent's reaction to news that their child is an apostate creates very nasty situations, so it's best to be prepared for the worst.
Focus on your schoolwork, your studies. You may end up having to support yourself entirely when you go to college-if that is your intention of course. So, make sure you've got good grades in order to receive as much scholarship money as possible.
While you cannot prepare yourself emotionally for your parents reaction to your unbelief, you can prepare yourself financially.
If you follow through with this, JessicaLily, you'll not regret it. The freedom that awaits you is beautiful and envigorating. You'll see the world through new eyes once you're free of Mormonism. Keep your head up, JessicaLily. The next two years will be dark and difficult, but once you're free you'll be glad you made the effort.
Best wishes to you, JessicaLily. We're rooting for you here.