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Posted by: Breeze ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 08:11PM

The words on Grandma's needlepoint pillow say, "Never complain-- Never explain", so I won't do that anymore.

RFM is the last tie I have to Mormonism, and I need to let it go, in order to completely recover from my PTSD. Thanks to RFM, and your answers, your good advice, your shared experiences, your caring, my children and I have resigned from the cult, and are enjoying more joy and love than we ever dreamed of. I have laughed with you, and cried with you, and I will miss all of you. I can never thank you enough!

This is a fresh start. My one child who returned to Mormonism and her RM husband have both resigned, thus breaking any bonds to the evil Mormon cult! I also have a new job promotion, in a different office building, where people know me only on a professional level--not as either a Mormon or an ex-Mormon. I have volunteered for many years, now, helping children who need help, face-to-face, using my career qualifications, where people know who I am, and who appreciate the real me--in a not-religious setting. On RFM, I had to be anonymous, because my abusive temple ex-husband was stalking me, but all that is over, now.

Despite the pain, loss, anger, and frustration, from the viewpoint of strangers, on the outside looking in, it all seems simple. Maybe it's best to keep it that way.

The Locked Door, by Robert Frost

It went many years,
But at last came a knock,
And I thought of the door
With no lock to lock.

I blew out the light,
I tip-toed the floor,
And raised both hands
In prayer to the door.

But the knock came again
My window was wide;
I climbed on the sill
And descended outside.

Back over the sill
I bade a "Come in"
To whoever the knock
At the door may have been.

So at a knock
I emptied my cage
To hide in the world
And alter with age.

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 08:12PM

May your breeze always blow mild and warm.

Hugs. Have a great life. :)

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 08:14PM

<sniff> you raise them up, and off they go, never leaving you in their wills...

Oh, well, what's a mother to do?

If you're hanging around a bit to see the responses, I wish you well!!

If you never come back to read any of this, I was going to send you a big check...

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Posted by: BYU Boner ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 09:44PM

Very best wishes, Breeze! You’ve been a great, insightful poster. Hugs!

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/12/2017 09:44PM by BYU Boner.

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Posted by: Tevai ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 10:00PM

I wish you well as your future unfolds, Breeze!!


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Posted by: Amyjo ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 10:42PM

I'm going to miss your thoughtful posts Breeze, and being a longtime poster here.

Glad you are doing really well.

Best wishes in all your future endeavors.

I learned at synagogue there is no "Goodbye" in Hebrew except for Shalom, which means peace. Or "Le'heet'ra'ote," which means "until we meet again." Because we're always connected in time and space to one another. So rather than saying goodbye, it's better to say "until we meet again."

So I'll just say Shalom and Leheetraote. :)

Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/12/2017 10:42PM by Amyjo.

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Posted by: summer ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 10:51PM

Breeze, I've truly enjoyed your company on this board, and I know that your recollections and advice have helped many. I'm truly delighted for you that your one child and her husband have resigned -- I know that was a difficult situation for you. It sounds like you have a lot of good things happening in your life.

If you feel like it, do drop in from time to time just to let us know how you and your family are doing. We'll miss you!

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Posted by: badassadam ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 11:38PM

I loved your posts breeze i too need to step away i also have PTSD.

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Posted by: Amyjo ( )
Date: October 12, 2017 11:50PM

I have PTSD on some level. It takes more than being on RfM to trigger it for me. Mine may be more internalized than others. I've learned to cope with it after a lifetime of dealing with it.

You do learn to be more wary, by necessity (without being paranoid.)

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Posted by: catnip ( )
Date: October 13, 2017 12:19AM

Best wishes in this new phase of your journey.

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Posted by: Soft Machine ( )
Date: October 13, 2017 04:44AM

It's been very refreshing to know you and I've always enjoyed your posts, so thanks for them ;-)

Drop by to say hello from time to time.

Best wishes for the future

Tom in Paris

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Posted by: anonuk ( )
Date: October 13, 2017 05:39AM

I have related to some of your previous postingss and they have provided help and encouragement to me, so for this - thank you.

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Posted by: Cheryl ( )
Date: October 13, 2017 05:44AM

Thank you for your wise comments. You'll be missed.

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