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Date: May 29, 2011 08:47PM
Anagrammy, what you're describing sounds a lot like the narcissistic parental behaviors that are showcased on a site I recently discovered called STFU, Parents:
http://stfuparents.tumblr.com/People send in screenshots of the Facebook status updates of their friends parental overshares, such as nasty pictures of poop / naked kids / etc., descriptions of similarly private things or sharing their stories of bad parenting behavior, and snarky comments that "being a mom" is the most important thing in the world, particularly on other people's threads having nothing to do with the topic (called "mommyjacking").
I spent quite a few hours going through the archive and enjoying the comments, and I think you'll find that the things that you're describing that bother you about your daughter's parenting style is very well reflected in the narcissistic parenting styles of too many other young parents, who think the world revolves around themselves (like not being able to accommodate other people not being comfortable with her breastfeeding in front of them), and their precious children, who they're raising to be budding sociopaths even worse than themselves.
So, yeah, I think you're completely justified to be a little upset when you see that kind of parental style and fear for the consequences down the road for your grandchildrens' ability to fit into civilized society, never having been told "no" or taught the benefits of delaying gratification and accommodating the desires of other people. Maybe the posts on "STFU, Parents" will make you feel less alone.