Date: November 27, 2017 11:25AM
OMG, jstone, you have it in writing!!!
No longer can we be gas-lighted into thinking we are paranoid, and that it is our fault we can't be real friends with Mormons.
I always felt there was an agenda, with my Mormon neighborhood ward friendships. They were constantly asking me to play the piano, to accompany them in sacrament meeting, to rehearse with them, to play for road shows, primary, RS, play the organ, teach organ lessons for free, accompany and/or lead the choirs and singing groups, play for parties and fashion shows and weddings and funerals. Suddenly, I got seriously ill, and had to quit all of my callings, as well as take a leave of absence from my job. There would be no income for several months, while I underwent painful and expensive hospital out-patient treatments, so I couldn't pay tithing. My job was great about it, but the Mormons turned on me. I was accused of malingering, because I could still drive a car, and go to the grocery store. At first, they kept calling and making demands, and I had the stress and strain of having to say "no" and having to explain. It didn't help in dealing with my illness. Finally, they stopped calling, and for all those months, no one brought me dinner (I had always taken dinners to them), or called just to see how I was doing. My children observed this behavior. This led to our questioning whether the church was really Christ-centered, as it claimed to be. I asked my children why they didn't like church, and they finally told me about their experiences of being abused by adult Mormon cult leaders. They had been threatened never to tell, and when they finally told me, we all cried, together. I told them they never had to go to church again. When we became inactive, we were harassed by various groups of two or three Mormon man, banging on our door at night. At first I let some in--Mormon neighbors we knew, and the bishopric--and they threatened me, and maligned me in front of my children. Once, we even stood up and asked them to leave our house!
This type of disrespect for others can ultimately lead to aggression and even abuse of others. Mormons have no respect. I always thought my Mormon "friends" never really knew me, or cared about me, as an individual.
Now, I don't have one Mormon friend, from our old ward. When we officially resigned, they shunned us. We left quitely, and no one ever asked us why.
Fake-friendshipping and shunning--these are very real. This Mormon behavior has nothing to do with you or me. It's what they do.