Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: February 18, 2018 06:11PM
Hey, this worked for me and my kids!
I was honest with them, the moment I learned the Truth, and I have apologized (probably to excess) many times over for being a duped, brainwashed, BIC parent.
The OP doesn't give children enough credit! Innocent children have a clearer mind than a brainwashed adult. This is why the Mormon cult starts brainwashing little Primary kids at a very young age--with the chants, songs, stories, lessons, and making them bear their testimonies, pay tithing, pray in public, take the sacrament, be baptized--even before they can understand anything.
Innocent children perceive body language and facial expressions, aside from whatever someone is saying. They pick up on "vibes" and interpret them as negative or positive, by their gut reaction to them. Children still think their feelings are valid, and are not yet taught by Mormons that they should feel the opposite. Good is good and bad is bad.
At a variety of ages, from 7 to 13, every one of my children had doubts about Mormonism. The oldest ones thought it was a cult, and they never believe the JS story in the first place. The youngest was preparing to be baptized just because her cousins were, too, but the Primary lessons frightened her, and she didn't like being told she had "sins" that needed to be washed away. Whenever she went to baptisms, and saw men dunking kids in water, and everyone being solemn and weird, she said she didn't want that to be done to her. My children did not like hearing that I was inferior, because I was divorced, single, and working outside the home. They resent being told that our family was NOT a real "Forever Family" and that each of us would be alone in the Hereafter. All of them came to me, at one time or another, complaining that their Grandpa, their school teachers, Mother Theresa, and others were even more righteous than most of our Mormon neighbors--yet these wonderful people would not get into the highest heaven.
Unbrainwashed children seem to have an innate sense of justice. They are more in touch with their feelings.
Caramel Dreams--please ASK your children how they feel in church meetings, and/or how they feel about what they are being taught in Primary in general, and/or how they feel about the Joseph Smith story (both the old one with the Golden Plates or the new one with the rock in the hat.)
Then--LISTEN! Just listen to what your children have to say.
I finally sat my children down, at the kitchen table, and asked them WHY they didn't like church. What they told me was MIND-BOGGLING, as they told me of instances of physical abuse from the adult leaders! I guess our exit was easy...I started to cry--we were all crying--and said, "You don't ever have to go to that church again." All our doubts and what we had learned from our non- and ex-Mormon friends fell into place. We resigned together.
The outcome?
This is the truth, and I'm not just bragging. My children and I felt closer as a family. They had respect for me, for following the Truth. They understood brainwashing, because they had been lied to and manipulated, just as I had been. They accepted my apologies. We love each other very much. My children have wonderful friends who are not Mormon. They married non-Mormons, except for one. They adjusted to their mostly-mormon schools, got good grades, were active on sports teams, dance groups, music, family skiing and mountain sports, after-school jobs, etc. All are honest and moral, have great careers, houses not far from me, and children of their own. They are very happy and normal.
Love your children. Listen to them. Give them credit. Be honest. Apologize.
Don't give up on them. It is your duty as a parent to present Truth and reality to your children.