Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: April 06, 2018 07:43PM
The abusive silent treatment--and it really is "abusive" does get to you! It's mind game. Mormons shun you, so that you think you are crazy, and unworthy of their notice, and a "nothing".
RFM helped me realize that I was not singled out--almost everyone on this board has been shunned!
It was not about me at all. The Mormons have to inflict "outer-darkness" onto those who leave, in order to make their stupid superstitions and prophesies come true. They can't handle the fact that most of us ex-Mormons are happy, healthy, popular, and successful.
However upset you are about being given the silent treatment, those Mormons are much more upset, angry and confused, that you are living a good life, without their dumb cult!
Congratulations on handling this difficult situation on your own. I needed therapy, to help me let go of my Mormon abusers. My older brother beat and tortured me for my entire childhood, until I left home. Even then, he didn't stop. My parents used to tell me that my brother loved me, and would do anything for me. The therapist helped me by telling me that 1) My brother was a psychopath, and 2) My brother never did love me.
My guess is that these same two facts apply to whoever is being cruel to you. Psychopaths, and other shunners, use guilt to manipulate you. You know that the Mormons cry "Persecution!" and blame everybody else. Don't feel guilty that you don't want abuse in your life. You are your own adult parent, now, just like you said.
I don't miss the two Mormon relatives that I no longer have contact with--not at all--and I certainly don't miss feeling like dirt when I'm around them. A person needs good self-esteem, in their career, relationships, in just about everything in life.
Anyone who wants to rob you of your self-esteem is your enemy. Anyone who wants you to be unhappy, or unsuccessful is your enemy. I used to think the best of everyone, and this was a hard lesson for me to learn, and I learned the hard way.
Once the shunners and abusers are out of your life, you start appreciating the GOOD people all the more. The world outside of Mormonism is not scary at all--it is filled with love and adventure! Enjoy your freedom!