Posted by:
Arschlok
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Date: April 23, 2018 08:59PM
I think I'm being overly dramatic in stating that mormons who believe must also believe all exmormons are lazy/sinners and therefore can't have real relationships with exmos as a result.
That may be true for some mormons and not true for others.
I wouldn't know unless I had long discussions with each.
But it is true, that the church teaches that exmormons are flawed in a way that is different than catholics teach ex-catholics are flawed, or methodists teach ex-methodists are flawed.
When you tear yourself from mormonism, this idea is so embedded, that it can literally change the way you think about yourself - even though you don't believe the premise.
I think that some exmormons - especially males - but that's a big assumption - have their self respect damaged when they learn the truth and decide to be honest about it.
They than spent time - sometimes years trying to earn it back from the people who have painted them with the red "A".
It's hard to tear yourself away because your family is mormon, your friends were mormon - instead of making new family and friends, you just want the old ones to open their minds just a bit more to make room for the idea that you are the same good person you were.
I think that mormonism mostly wins in this regard - even now.
All you can do is accept that you are an adult and should act like one and move on.