Posted by:
Wally Prince
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Date: September 23, 2018 11:24AM
I'm not sure that I'll ever be completely "over it" in this lifetime. From age 0 to about 23, I was totally immersed in it from day 1. Grew up in a devout Mormon family, especially devout mom, surrounded by an extended family of grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. who were all Mormons. Closest friends in elementary school, junior high school, high school, university...yep...almost all Mormons.
I no longer really need reaffirmation per se. But I don't think I'll ever completely lose interest. It's such a big part of me.
It's not just the aspect of once having been a believer, but, perhaps more importantly, the process I went through in thinking myself out of it all. Just that process alone is worth contemplating.
For me it wasn't a case of it being easier not to be Mormon. For me, the process of leaving Mormonism meant losing friends, losing my community, losing the feeling of 'having something in common' with all the people I grew up with.
Still staying in touch with some of my closest friends, but can't really share and celebrate all of their Mormon "milestones" (temple marriage, being bishops, stake presidents, having kids married in the temple, going on missions...). I can tell that they view me as having a major defect in my soul.
Even as a kid, I often felt like there was something wrong with me. I wanted to believe like everyone else and made a good effort. But I couldn't make myself unsee the problems I kept seeing. I could never see the "Emperor's New Clothes". I just kept seeing the Emperor's flabby, naked body on full display.
All that said, I kind of know what you're saying. I've gone through periods of several years at a time where I didn't really care or think about these things. Most recently, I think I went for a period of about 7 years without visiting this board or any other exmo-related websites. Too busy with other things.
Ran into some missionaries a year ago and, it having been a long time, decided to hear them out just to see if any of it would make any sense or have any appeal if I listened to it again after not having thought about it for years. Answer: It didn't. I don't think they got more than 2 sentences into their spiel before the illogical assumptions, presumptions and contradictions began revealing themselves once again and it all came flooding back. That led me to once again feel like delving into the ongoing discussion at sites like this.
Additionally, aside from any therapeutic value I get from re-examining my erstwhile beliefs, I think Mormonism and why people believe it is an endlessly fascinating subject and a way of examining important aspects of human psychology.