Posted by:
motherwhoknows
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Date: June 13, 2011 07:35PM
My son just got engaged. He has lived on his own for a few years, and this is his first marriage. It is her second marriage, and she has a child.
She hasn't been very friendly to me, and I've never met her family. Her family is Mormon, but it will not be a temple marriage.
What am I required to do, as mother of the groom? I have more money than the bride's family, a bigger house, entertain a lot for work people, etc, so I might be expected to do more. This is all new to me.
Am I responsible for any of the wedding expenses? A rehearsal dinner?
Would it be polite to I give them an engagement party? Should I invite her family over for a barbecue, so we can meet them? I know from my son's fiance, that her family is dysfunctional, and she, herself has a huge chip on her shoulder. I usually avoid Mormons, for many reasons, but I have a sense of obligation.
Should I and/or my other kids give them a shower? Both of their apartments are well-equipped, so they don't need anything, and I dislike money showers. My son's friends are giving him a huge bachelor party, with his fraternity brothers, at Lake Powell.
I've heard of parents offering the couple money instead of a reception, a wedding dress, food, flowers, etc. Some students do take the money, and consider themselves "practical." But--it is usually the bride's parents that do that.
Help! What should I do? I need to start budgeting for this now. (I don't have that much cash at the moment.)
We live in Salt Lake.
Thank you!