Posted by:
catnip
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Date: March 22, 2019 07:15AM
My adult son will be filing by phone later today (I've been awake for three hours fretting about it) for disability from the Social Security office. He originally wanted to do this from my house, as I worked for SSA for 30 years and understand the nuances of any questions that may be asked. Also, son has a significant hearing loss. So, I was just supposed to be there to facilitate things, as needed. No problem.
Son called me yesterday, and told me he felt he could handle the call on his own, so that when the SSA office called at my home, just identify myself as his mom, and redirect them to his own phone, per his request. That would take what - a minute or less? I said, "Sure, no problem."
DH overheard this and flew into a rage. He insisted that I should not "run interference" for son. He said, "Why not have him call the national number just like everyone else. . ." I used to WORK at the bloody national number. I know that it takes between 2 and 3 hours to get through to a live rep. Why would I put my son through that?
Fortunately, DH will be at work tomorrow, so if SSA calls here I will forward the call to son as agreed upon.
Can anybody shed a light on why DH would be so resistant to my doing something like that, which is NO inconvenience to me, at all? We had an extended fight about it yesterday (we seldom fight about anything)and annoyance is keeping me awake.
He insisted that I was "enabling" my son. I maintain that I was simply passing along a message as requested, especially since my son's choices are complicated by exhaustion from being on thrice-weekly dialysis.
Any ideas on why it is such a huge tail-wringing deal to forward a 30-second message? I would appreciate your input.