Posted by:
exminion
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Date: May 03, 2019 02:20AM
Everyone's different, but some people love drama. (I hate it, and avoid confrontations, to the point of running away. Some people are control freaks. Some people need love and attention more than others. People want to feel that they are important, that their lives matter.
From what I read here on RFM, Relief Society is almost defunct, and no longer offers the social and creative outlets that it used to. Charity service is restricted to cleaning the building--Gah--how satisfying could that be? Even crafting something out of pop bottles could be therapeutic, and elicit conversation among the people who were doing it together. Luncheons were social, the cooking was accomplishing something, at least. Visiting teachers kept track of each other, though the women complained about it. Now there's--nothing.
If you love your sister, you could help open some new doors for her. What were her hobbies and talents, when she was growing up? She needs something else to occupy her!
A job or career would save her from that self-indulgent ennui, and she would make money, besides. I have some Mormon friends who are empty nester SAHM's, and the ones who can't find hobbies or volunteer work to interest them, often end up being miserable. This can happen to Mormons and non-Mormons alike.
As for her erratic behavior, menopause is no excuse. I would look to see if she is on drugs. I'm not kidding--over half of my Mormon (former) friends were on one of these drug derivatives: Valium, Prozac, Zoloft, Vicodin, Percodin, Ambien, Zolpiden, amphetamines, etc., or hormones, or massive, massive amounts of caffeine every day.
She might need your help, or a therapist's help. But that doesn't mean you have to put up with her rage and histrionics. You can make your own boundaries with her.