New Name "Bubbles"
Date: June 07, 2019 06:05AM
My ex sister-in-law died a couple of weeks ago, and when I searched for her obituary, the website of the cemetery's funeral home popped up, with separate sections to (1) write something to honor the deceased, (2) to write about memories, and to (3) leave condolences to the family. Plus, there was a separate section for "family". I have no idea where I fit in.
Most of the messages were from Mormons who had worked with my SIL in the temple, and expressed Mormon views, but also applied these views to my SIL and her after-life. My SIL's remaining adult child, her grandchildren, and her sister's family are not Mormons.
One Mormon woman wrote that my SIL was in the loving arms of her parents and her second husband and her two deceased children. Her two children committed suicide! Mormons used to preach that suicides would not go to the Celestial Kingdom, right? Those who believe the preached BS will feel really bad, when they read that post. Or do they believe that her two children will be an exception to the rules, because their mother and her husband paid a lot of tithing and went on multiple missions?
I often wonder what Mormons preach about suicide these days??? I, personally, don't believe God, regardless of who or what He is, would punish these souls at all.
Another Mormon wrote: "She missed [her second husband] very much, and I know that he was there to take her through the veil, mission companions once again." Her second husband had a nasty disposition, and he beat her, all the time! Her children hated him. She actually divorced him once, but he manipulated his way back into the house and would not leave. He had money, and he promised her the life of her dreams, and missions, and travel. She paid the price for that, and married him again.
Note: A temple-Mormon woman needs a temple-Mormon husband to "take her through the veil." Quickly, before the matrons come and shoo everyone off the furniture, so the next group can come through.
I suppose for some people, "mission companions, once again," for eternity is their idea of heaven. But, doesn't it mean they will be "ministering angels" and not celestial priests and priestesses? Well, it might be better than having constant sex with a man-God you share with other women, and being continually pregnant with children you will have to give away to other lives.
I thought I had escaped Mormons hijacking my funeral, by not having it in a Mormon ward house, and not inviting Mormons to speak or pray, etc., but I need to do more careful planning.
Do most mortuaries have a website? Can the family opt out of it?
This reminds me of stories on RFM by Cl2 and Don Bagley and others, who have had upsetting messages from Mormons left in their e-mail, or posted on their Fakebook page. Rather than have my children worry about blocking various TBM relatives and so-called "friends," commenting about my life and death, I would rather have them opt-out and un-plug, completely.
Also, am I required to write anything about my ex-SIL? The last time I saw her, she told me that she had always been jealous of me. She used to call me "the Indian" and "Pocahontas", behind my back, because of my darker skin, eyes, and long dark hair. I felt that was racist, and it hurt my feelings, but I ignored it.
She got mad at me for double-dating with my husband and my BIL (her ex), and his new "Lady", after they were divorced. My husband had forced me to, but she chose to blame ME for everything, and we did not part on the best of terms.
But she was my sister-in-law for 15 years, 30 years ago, and I still feel that attachment.
Being raised a Mormon, I need someone else to tell me what I should feel...what I should do....