Date: August 10, 2019 10:44PM
Yes, RFM has been a life saver! I don't think any other forum could have helped me so much. Over the years, my problems have been varied and extreme, and no matter where circumstances have put me and my children, RFM has helped.
"Gospel" questions answered! Some questions, I had been asking all of my TBM BIC life! Thank you for The Truth! The scriptures, church history, JS and BY history, the various scams in the formation of the cult and also ongoing by the cult today
Next, RFM helped me with my prolonged "anger" stage of loss. I vented my anger here. I learned that anger was very common and normal, when Mormons discover they have been lied to their whole life--and by their own parents and other adults they had been brainwashed into trusting and respecting.
I desperately wanted to "un-brainwash" myself, and RFM has helped with that by dispelling Mormon myths and Mormon claims of authority from God. I learned that the male priesthood authority was bogus, and that the Mormons actually did disrespect women and their rights. (Previously, I though I was just one of those "uppity wimmin" trying to live a man's life as the sole head of household and breadwinner. I was told that I was arrogant and delusional, if I thought I could raise my children alone. RFM gave me courage, and hope. Other ex-Mormon women were doing the same thing, and we all I proved the Mormons wrong!
RFM helped me deal with my PTSD and the church-triggered flashbacks.
You people helped me deal with abuse and abusers, and STOP the Mormons from abusing my children. You gave me instructions on how to get my family out of the cycle of abuse, and out into a free and happy life! How can I possibly thank anyone enough for this.
I'm glad that I could remain anonymous, because my abusive ex-husband, and a few of his Mormon family members, have been stalking and harassing me all these years. When the kids and I resigned, and were no longer potential temple-sealed "possessions", the worst of the stalking ended.
In the end, believe it or not, it was RFM that helped teach me love and REAL "forgiveness--not the Mormon versions of love and forgiveness, but the true unconditional love that even extends to your self, in the form of self-esteem, confidence, having value--no longer wanting to give up, or to commit suicide, or to accept abuse.
Posters like Cl2, Susie Q, Summer, (I hate to name names, because I am leaving most of you out) have guided me in coping with the remaining Mormons in our life, that family and neighborhood forces me to deal with almost every day. Some of you people are still happily married to Mormons, and include yourselves in your Mormon children's lives, and still are friendly and kind to your Mormon neighbors, and have moved on from past abuse--I have such respect for you!
RFM has enhanced our lives!